The child is fourteen years old, what should I do if I fall in love early?

I found that the first thing that parents think of in this situation is to stop, and basically ignore the methods and consequences, and regard puppy love as a flood. But it's better to be blocked. Fourteen-year-old children are in puberty. With the development of their bodies and the awakening of their gender awareness, it is normal for them to become curious about the opposite sex and have a vague favorable impression. The so-called young Muai. At this time, what parents should do is to provide correct guidance after communicating with their children, rather than directly and rudely stopping them. Let’s talk about the aspect of communication first. The first thing to do is to maintain an equal attitude, and then talk about other things. 1. Figure out why your child falls in love early. Is it because I saw other classmates or friends around me falling in love with each other, and just followed the trend to find a partner? Or because of curiosity about the opposite sex? Or did two people develop a good feeling because they have been together for a long time? Or other reasons. 2. Get to know your child's object. At least know the basic situation of the other party, such as family situation, personality, study and so on. As for how to guide puberty children in puppy love, you can find a lot of information on the Internet. I am only expressing my personal opinion. 1. On the premise of good communication, whether you want them to end the relationship, or maintain the status quo, let this relationship (let's call it a relationship) become a boost for the two of you. It is best to guide your child and his partner at the same time. You can invite two children together and communicate openly with them. 2. No matter what decision you make, please tell them the reason for your decision, don't say it's good for them in general. Although the child probably won't listen at this time. Then you can make a gentleman's agreement with them, and set a standard that can be achieved by study or other efforts. If they can't do it, then I'm sorry, you can justifiably say: It seems that your love is nothing more than this. 3. You also have to set a bottom line for them. Tell them clearly what not to do and why. 4. Let them know that love is not just about the beauty of two people under the flower field and the moon. There is also the responsibility for the other half and the future efforts of the two people. 5. Make it clear about the attitude of the other parent. It would be best if they can reach an agreement with you. That's about it, after all, I'm not a youth education, there may be many mistakes, just for reference, please forgive me! I had a puppy love in my second year of high school. Later, we were admitted to the same college together. Now we have been in love for ten years and got married. Most of the above is what my parents did at the time.

No harsh scolding, but set a strict lower limit and explain clearly what you can't do. You can make friends, but not in the so-called narrow sense of boyfriend and girlfriend. Adolescents are vulnerable to hormones at this stage. Going home late is not allowed, and pocket money must be strictly controlled. When you go out on weekends, you need to tell you the time and place, and the location is shared. A lot of things are the more mysterious, the more they prevent, the more curious they are. Just keep an open mind. That's what my parents did to me.

What should parents do if they find out that their child is in a puppy love? 1. Control your emotions. As a parent, after knowing about the child's puppy love, don't immediately stop the child (such as beating and scolding the child) impulsively. It is recommended to adjust your emotions, don't face your child with anger, communicate with your child as a friend, don't blindly tell your child not to fall in love early, let them understand why they can't fall in love early. 2. Respect the child's puppy love. Even if they are not mature enough, puppy love is also an experience of their emotional life. In their youthful rebellious period, their hearts will be very fragile. Maybe the love they long for is a mistake, but they have their own dignity, so don't deny it severely They, let alone laugh at them, must first affirm their feelings, express their belief in them, and then guide them to reflect on whether they can take that responsibility? Ask them to ask themselves if they have the ability to have it? It should be better to let the child retreat in spite of difficulties. 3. Give the child a period of time. If the time is up, the child is still indulged in love and affects the grades, and certain measures must be taken: communicate with the child seriously once, let the child understand what real and mature love is: that is to Responsible for the other party is for the purpose of marriage, and it requires certain abilities and certain foundations. The problem of children's puppy love should not be regarded as "flood beasts" by parents and teachers. We should treat the problem of children's puppy love with a normal heart, guide children, let them learn to deal with immature love, form a correct view of feelings, do not affect learning, and do not cross the line.