Ten years later, the most promising children often stand behind these nine kinds of parents (see which one you are).

"excellent parents do not lie in their educational background or education, but in their sense of responsibility.

Companionship is the responsibility, parenting is the responsibility, and leading by example is the responsibility. To fulfill the responsibility of parents is to be responsible for the life of their children. "

Children are the epitome of family education.

What kind of family education you give your child, the child will have what kind of future.

During my years as a teacher, I have come into contact with many parents and children.

After observing for a long time, it is found that although the educational concepts and methods of each family are different, those children who are promising when they grow up, and the parents behind them, basically have these nine characteristics:

No matter how busy you are, you are willing to spend time with your children.

Companionship is a particularly clich é topic.

Almost every parent knows the importance of companionship.

However, not everyone has enough time to spend all their time with their children.

Children's educational psychology puts forward that the quality of parents' companionship has a great influence on the development of children's mental health.

The real meaning of companionship lies not in the amount of time, but in whether the child feels your care and love for him during that time.

Instead of obsessing that you don't spend much time with your children, it's better to keep company deeply, such as:

1. With children, you can eliminate interference and do nothing else.

2. When you are with your child, talk more about his thoughts and your opinions.

3. Make use of the rest time to participate in more children's hobby activities.

4. Companionship should have a sense of ritual and try not to miss every important moment in your child's life.

Willing to talk well, without "knife mouth" to express love

"not at all."

"as stupid as a pig."

"Why can't you do anything well?"

"look at who he is."

Do you feel familiar with these words?

A previous social survey of more than 2,000 young people showed that nearly 90% said their parents had committed verbal violence against them.

Children feel that their parents use verbal violence against them, but their parents do not think so.

As a teacher and mother, for a long time, I also think that children are "unable to succeed without beating or scolding".

The more you talk to him, the more he pushes his nose to his face. If you say it patiently a hundred times, it won't be worth a scold.

But in fact, scolding your child is not an education, you are just venting your emotions.

As "good parents do not yell, do not shout" said: "of all the ways of education, scolding the child is the most effective, but also the most harmful to the child."

Talking well is the best style of a family.

Don't wait until the child grows up, and then use the sentence "I am also for your own good" to avoid the harm you have done to the child.

Parents who are emotionally stable have a better personality.

Criminal psychologist Li Meijin once analyzed:

Every adult who tends to be emotionally out of control and moody almost always has an emotionally unstable parent behind him in his childhood.

The appearance of parents is the most recent life template for children.

The emotional instability of parents often leads to the lack of sense of security in their children.

Because he doesn't know if his next behavior will infuriate you again, causing your emotions to explode in an instant.

A parent who can't control himself is destined to find it hard to raise a child with sense of security.

Don't underestimate the harm our bad mood does to our children, and don't overestimate our children's ability to heal wounds.

If you treat your child out of control, your child will grow up to be another person who is easily out of control.

Parents who empower themselves all their lives have stronger self-drive.

In life, we often observe such a phenomenon: how parents spend their leisure time, and how children spend their leisure time.

Just like parents who like to brush their mobile phones, almost all of them have a child who is addicted to mobile phones.

And a parent who does not give up self-growth, the child's learning self-drive will be stronger.

"the language of parents" says: "Human intelligence or psychology is the result of the interaction between heredity and environment."

Life is a marathon. Parents who always maintain their learning ability will make their children more likely to counterattack.

Otherwise, the parents themselves are content with the status quo and do not want to make progress, but they ask their children to study hard and work hard. Unless the child is a natural prodigy, he or she will generally repeat his parents' life.

The higher the parents' sense of self-worth

The less restrictions children have on their way of growing up.

When my daughter was young, I devoted almost all my thoughts to her. I did everything myself for fear that she would be hurt and aggrieved.

But as she grew up, she became more and more independent, and the more I managed, the more she wanted to escape.

There are more and more "conflicts" between us, and our daughter is becoming more and more introverted and timid.

Until a period of time, I was busy with my work, and her omni-directional arrangement was reduced, but her character became more lively and bold.

"Ecology is all about balance, and so is parent-child relationship."

If parents are more involved, their children will have less self-growth.

The growth of children is a journey of exploration and adventure, which needs to find their own way in countless setbacks and attempts.

To be a parent, instead of tying up your whole life as a "mother" or "father", it is better to keep a moderate distance from your children and let go moderately.

There is a bottom line for everything to be done according to the rules.

After being a mother, there are often a lot of entanglements.

For example, sometimes we know that it is important to set rules for our children, but we also worry that too many rules will limit the growth of our children.

But give the child more freedom, but also afraid that the bear child will take an inch. The degree in between is difficult to grasp.

Indeed, rules cannot be set across the board. You can try these three methods:

Children before the age of 3 are more similar to the "whiteboard" stage. At this time, the rules must be clear and clear, and the main purpose is to develop good behavior habits of children from an early age.

? 3Murray 6-year-old children have developed self-concept, and at this stage, their morality is based on rules. So when making rules, you can give more rewards and punishments, and tell your child the causes and consequences of doing so.

For children over the age of 6, their logical ability and abstract thinking are becoming more and more perfect, and their understanding of the world begins to be "decentralized" and will consider problems from multiple angles and viewpoints. Therefore, instead of imposing rules on children over the age of 6, let them participate in the formulation of rules.

Rules are the yardstick for children to grow up.

Children who set good rules from an early age can get along better with the world when they grow up.

Parents who love sports, their children are more focused.

After many years of teaching, I have found that many children who are restless and impatient in their studies stem from lack of concentration.

Children with strong concentration are more likely to achieve flow state (immersive state) and have better learning results when learning.

And in-depth study of concentration, in fact, it is a child's ability to control their own mind and body.

Because of age and cognitive limitations, children's self-control ability is not well developed. So if you want to exercise your child's control ability, the best way is to take part