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Now what? After a spouse dies
Hello To all: mine name is Linda and I am here to share my story of going thru the process of what you must do when your better half passes away. One is just know that you will need a circle of friends and family to go thru this life changing situation . After the major shock some what wears off than its time to get the wheels in motion. I have been very fortunate to have family that lives in the local area, and some close friends in the area as well. For starts you must be clear thinking to even begin the paperwork process, again that's why I am saying friends and family will be needed . I hope that the person who has passed on had all their legal paperwork in order. I have gone thru this process twice now as my husband dad has passed away in July of last year so I have been that done that. Yes two years in a row that I have lost family members. It was defiantly a eye opener. I was some what lucky that he had all his affairs set and ready to go when that day came. The V.A. was a lot of help taking care of the paperwork processed. And another good thing was that the funeral home handles a lot of the paperwork as well. So with that being said I learned the ropes in dealing with a huge life altering event. I also learned on how to be the best note taker around, yes I know today cellphones and laptops are great but I am old school in that I always have my notepad near by and ready to jot down all the needed information. Dates, Times, who I spoke to and if there is other phone numbers and name of other people that I needed to contact. Just know as well it will take time for all the paperwork to be processed, I am dealing with the life insurance company and it is truly a nightmare maybe its the company it self . I have so many channels to go thru to get it finalized and at times I feel they drag this process out a lot longer that need be. And if there is a pension plan be ready to go thru a lot to get that also transferred. So many people to contact when your better half passes away. Just remember to stay strong, grieve at well and just know that in the end if there is one that it will all come together sooner than later. Also have patience as well because even thou it is a human dealings the companies will still conduct business as usual, nothing really against you its just paperwork in the end. So there is my story in short and I hope that it can give someone insight to dealing with death and the paperwork.....
By Linda King5 years ago in Families
Bakers Dream
There are many people that don’t realize what people put into baking. The time that is put into creating each dessert to what people like or even making one to what we like. The outlines that need to be made to get that perfect design or if it’s just for fun we use our creativity and just wing it the rest of the way to make something absolutely beautiful. It’s also a lot harder than it looks and takes so much time to get the perfect type of icing and make up the right cake recipe to use. It started with my Papa when I was old enough to even think about cooking.
By Bethany Wilson5 years ago in Families
The Resurrecting Voices of my Heart
Hi my name is Yvonne L. Davis and I believe in authentic Love. People follow me and listen at what I have to say because I love to encourage the heart of any one. I was created here on earth to love anyone I encounter and to cherish life itself. Almost a year or so ago, I started doing mini videos on Facebook to encourage all people. It doesn't matter what color your skin is, it's the love and honesty that's in your heart that really matters. During the Pandemic I discovered hidden talents that I didn't know that I had. One day, I was just playing around on my phone and I recorded a video encouraging myself. I then decided to post it on my page on Facebook. I was surprised at how many likes, loves, comments, and sometimes amazing views that I would get. A few days later, I went to a Birthday dinner with some friends of mine to enjoy the party and laughter. One of my friends said," Yvonne we like what you do". I said, what do you mean?". She said, "we have seen and listened at your post on Facebook and we like it". "I think you should keep doing it because you get straight to the point, you hit it and quit it".
By Yvonne L. Davis5 years ago in Families
Doing it All: Mother, Wife, Writer, Student et al… . Top Story - June 2021.
Life Doesn't End at Motherhood! If you feel like you are overwhelmed, don't worry; you are not alone! I remember having two under twos at once! I think I spent 75 per cent of my time changing nappies (Diapers) or clothes. Let's not forget the constant tidying, the walks, food prep and especially snuggle time!
By J.B. Miller5 years ago in Families
Taking for Granted
Jam ia take things for granted, she is never thankful until she got her locket taken away. She needs to open our eyes and realize how blessed she is. When she do not have that one thing that she love she feels lost. Her Mother gave her that locket when she was sick Jamia felt a banded when her mother died.
By lakyra Payne5 years ago in Families
Standing Out
I'm sitting in my first grade classroom, the year must have been 1984. I remember I took my brush to school because I needed a way to inconspicuously scratch my head while in class. I knew if I scratched my head as often as it itched I would be scratching it all day. I also knew exactly what the problem was because I've experienced this many times before. I didn't want to tell my mom because she would be pissed. So I waited. I waited and tried to hide it for what felt like a week or so until one day it happened. No different than all the other times. The teacher and the school nurse started checking everyone's heads and not to my surprise, I was sent to the office to wait for my mom to pick me up. This is what I feared in the first place, all I had done was prolong it. My mother came into the front office to sign me out and this time I realized why this was such a big deal for my mom. I seen it in her face, she seemed pissed about it because this was as embarrassing for her with the other adults as it was for me with my peers. It all made sense now why she hated it when I got Head Lice and why her anger and other emotions made me feel like it was my fault or like she was mad at me. I had Headlice often, usually when some of my cousins would visit. Every time, the school would send me to the office with headlice, all the other kids knew I had it and never wanted to sit by me or hang out with me at recess. I haven't had headlice sense first grade but do you know the one time my daughter caught it, I had anxiety about it and I even felt upset which to me wasn't warranted. It's funny how something so insignificant can affect us. It's difficult to fit in, when you always stand out.
By Martha Wiles5 years ago in Families
Granny Fran’s Fiscars
A few weeks ago I finished my husband’s surgical cap with its hand embroidered LA Dodgers logo on the front. I made the ambitious decision to construct the cap while my 10 month old daughter was still awake. She was crawling around while I sat working at my sewing machine. The pum pum pum of the needle going through the fabric piqued her curiosity and, despite her ability to speak, I understood she wanted a vantage point from my lap. A part of me just wanted to hurry up and finish it. I had to subdue the urge to distract her with a toy. Instead, I brought her to my lap.
By Hailey Minton5 years ago in Families
How long can you use a baby swing?
Parents love to use a baby swing for their babies, and even a baby loves to spend time in it. The bad news is, you can’t offer a baby swing to your baby for the entire day. Some experts say a baby shouldn’t spend more than 1 hour/day, and he/she shouldn’t spend more than 30 minutes at a time in the baby swing. These time limits are enough because baby swings are made to make the baby relax, feel happy, and comfortable. You should only use a baby swing when he/she is crying or when you want to do other chores at home. When you are free and can give your baby time, forget the baby swing and hold the baby in your hand. There are various reasons for limiting the time. Let’s discuss them.
By Teman Stuart5 years ago in Families
