Single Mothers

Dear Single Mothers,

With every desire for our children to be happy, a bitter baby father uses blasphemy. We take so much and deal with the most challenging times. At the same time, they seem to get off scot-free, barely giving a dime. I think it's unfair that we get treated like prostitutes through the system; child support is scarcely enough to cover the cost of tissue, yet let society tell it we picked them. I think the double standards come around as a more personal issue.

Men are not being held accountable, and it's always our fault; women are subjected to abuse and have to keep everything together so that their careers do not end in default; in school, we carry the cost, brawling over children's needs trying to make sure that we succeed. I think it's very unfair that we fight these battles silently. Opening our hearts to men, we considered our best friends at some point but got stabbed in the back because of responsibility. This word makes no sense to a man who was trying to hit. Ladies doing better looks, I got this shit because if not taking less than was a trend, let's do it for our kids.

The selfish mindset of a deadbeat father seems to be the clown crown of the year if we're honest. They spend no time but always want to know what you're doing, and if you refuse to give them your body, they start verbally abusing you. They want nothing to do with their children unless you love them. It seems like they got all your love, and as soon as your attention focused on their children, they pulled a 360. But walking around saying we should be more submissive. I find it funny that these men are always trying to cover their issues.

Society, if we knew who we were sleeping with and they didn't wear a mask the whole time a relationship existed, then, trust me, these men wouldn't be one of the ones we were picking. We are entitled to make mistakes; that's the excuse you give men nowadays. If a woman refuses to go through excess trauma, she has to deal with some form of domestic violence. I can only imagine how many protective orders most of us have against our baby fathers. I mean the craze and deranged mindsets of these men, and then you move on, they say you won't let them see their kids, causing all sorts of problems that shouldn't exist, mad about child support, but always got money to splurge on his new chick.

The audacity of the men we once loved has become so bold. They refuse to consider our future, but we should always consider theirs. We give up our days and nights, dedicate ourselves to toddler fights, go through the perils of teenage blues, misunderstand ourselves throughout our youth, forget self-love, and refuse to date because they set the bar so low that some of us see men precisely the same. Irresponsible and disruptive, consistently inconsistent, and always looking for a woman to blame. It's never their fault; his responsibility always falls in a woman's lap, especially his mother, and if she font have it, here comes his grandmother.

Someone seems to be excusing these men, but they went through the same things we did. A generational curse of deadbeat men making excuses about why they fall short: yet, society has rights for all, but the children’s lives end up in family court. We won't always complain about being single mothers, but we will complain about these men being less fortunate than us.

Ladies, we're blessed, and no matter what we go through, everything will work out for the best. Single mothers by choice, because we should never settle for less