Older people know that boys and girls are really not the same

As the old saying goes, "To raise without teaching is the scourge of parents; to teach without doing anything right is the fault of parents."

Parents' behavior in the world will always influence their children's thinking, those excellent elders, know how to restrain their words, and have the right three views, to educate children with good moral character.

However, we often have some elders around us, too patriarchal, in their eyes, daughters are always to marry out, do not need to spend the effort to teach them, and even always say: "Girls, the study is useless, it is better to find a good man to marry while young."

Grandma Lou used to be a very patriarchal elder, she has two sons and a daughter. When she was young, because of the poor conditions of her family, Grandma Lou did not even consider the needs of her eldest daughter, Li LAN, and only spent money to send her two sons to school.

Li LAN felt that she was the eldest sister and should give in to her younger brother, but every time she ate, her mother only prepared eggs and milk for her brothers, and she could only drink white porridge.

No matter what her brothers asked their parents and how expensive the things they wanted to buy were, they would try their best to come up with the money to satisfy their brothers' preferences and vanity. Li Lan just wanted to be like all her classmates and be able to go to tuition classes during the summer, but her mother just couldn't afford to spend the extra 300 yuan.

In Grandma Lou's heart, she always felt that her sons were the ones who would stay with her in the future and give her old age, so she had to think of them in every way. Although her daughter is obedient and understanding, and very good at school, she will eventually marry, even if the training is good, the future is also someone else's family, so it is better not to waste these efforts.

Grandma Lou also decided that her daughter married out, is an outsider, and it is impossible for her to pension.

She can say that for the sake of the future of the two sons, it can be said that the best efforts, but when she is old, her sons are married, young people are used to freedom, and do not like to live with the elderly.

She can only live with her partner, who has worked hard all her life but still can only live in a narrow bungalow. Her two sons are very busy at work, and sometimes when Grandma Lou is not feeling well, she asks them to come back and take her to the hospital for a health check-up, but they always put it off.

On the contrary, her daughter Li LAN is more filial, she graduated from high school and went to work abroad, and she helped a lot with her two brothers' college expenses. Even if Li LAN is busy at work, she will try to take time off to go home to take care of her parents whenever they need it.

One time, Grandma Lou fell while working and had to stay in bed for three months. When her two sons found out about it, they were so concerned that they spent thousands of dollars on hospital visits, not to mention helping to take care of her.

In the end, Grandma Lou even returned the money to them.

From that time on, Grandma Lou began to feel regret, she felt that she was good to her two sons, not worth it at all. Li LAN was already married and had a lot to do, but Grandma Lou really needed someone to take care of her, so she called her daughter.

Li LAN drove home without saying a word, she and her best friend opened a hot pot restaurant, business is very good, and she has earned a lot of money over the years. Although her family failed to give support, Li LAN worked hard enough to mix better than her two brothers.

Knowing that her mother's leg was injured, Li LAN put aside her family's business and work and rushed back to take care of it. When Grandma Lou's leg was better, Li LAN even thoughtfully took her for a walk outside.

A neighbor's sister said to her, "Auntie Lou, you are really lucky to have such a filial daughter."

At that time, Grandma Lou's traditional thinking remained unchanged. She always felt that her son was better in her heart, but she just didn't express it.

Two years ago, Grandma Lou's partner became ill and passed away, leaving her alone. She originally thought that the two sons would receive her to live at home, but who knew that they discussed and sent Grandma Lou to a nursing home?

When she found out, she cried for several nights, and the more she thought about it, the more she felt aggrieved.

Not long after, Li LAN went back to her mother's house and said to Grandma Lou, "Now that Dad is gone, I don't feel comfortable with you living alone, so pack your bags and live with me afterward."

Li LAN had been married for many years, and she was surprised that she could go home to take care of her for a long time when Grandma Lou fell, but now she didn't expect that her daughter would be willing to give her a pension.

Grandma Lou packed her clothes while she shed tears, and only at this moment did she realize that she was wrong. In the beginning, if she could be kinder to her daughter, not so patriarchal, how good it would be.

Before she planned to go to her daughter's home to retire, her neighbor's sister Chen came to say goodbye to her. Chen is a warm-heated woman who has taken care of Grandma Lou over the years.

As the two talked, Grandma Lou sighed with tears in her eyes and said, "Only when I'm old do I realize that boys and girls are not the same. As parents, we should not give preference to sons, sometimes daughters are more filial than sons. Now that my partner is gone, my two sons are too lazy to take care of me and are planning to send me to a nursing home, if not for my daughter's filial piety, what should I do in my old age? I regret that I was not able to treat her better."

Grandma Lou's heartfelt words have alerted all parents.

Those elders who are bound by the concept of patriarchy, their old age is usually very miserable, and only care about their sons, and even squeeze their daughters everywhere, and as a result, when they get old, their sons are not willing to give them old age and even dislike their parents are a burden.

Although daughters are always to be married off, as long as they are raised properly, they are more grateful and more filial.

Just like Si Mingy in "It's All Good", her mother is so patriarchal that she is willing to let her eldest son study abroad no matter how much money she spends. When the second son got married, his mother would rather sell the old house to prepare his wedding house.

Ming U, however, could not get anything, and her mother did not even bother to pay for college, thinking that it was useless for girls to study, so they might as well get married early. Si Daring was her father, but also never gave her love.

Because in their hearts, they always think that Ming Y is a girl, always marrying in the future, and do not expect her to give them old age, so they do not want to pay.

But what happened in the end? Their two sons, each with their own families, are already carrying a lot of pressure. Si Daring is old and has Alzheimer's, and in the end, the only one who stays around to take care of him is Si Mingy.

Sometimes daughters are more filial than sons, so parents really should not prefer sons to daughters.

Wait for the day they are old, only to know how happy to have a daughter around to take care of a thing. Just like Grandma Lou, she is 70 years old, now she can live with her daughter and have a hot meal to eat every day, so she feels solid and happy inside.

Whenever she is not feeling well, her daughter will patiently accompany her to the hospital for health checkups, which is much better than her two sons.

I hope all parents can get rid of the shackles of their son's preference and treat their children well. If you want to have a happy old age, you must know how to treat your children fairly.

Parents who have a positive outlook will never use an eccentric attitude to educate their children. This approach will not only bring them psychological harm but may even lead them to a bad old age and end up with nothing to live for.

A beautiful and happy family does not need to be well-clothed and well-fed, what is needed is for the parents to give an equal amount of love, it is not only a blessing for the children, but you will also be blessed in your later years.

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