Discovering her husband's betrayal, should she divorce or settle for less? Her experience is very heartbreaking

Sister Xu, a 56-year-old neighbor, got divorced, and in a most undignified way, but the fault was not hers.

Xu's husband, who was having a rendezvous with a woman at someone's home, was caught red-handed by her husband.

The man, who had tratraveledtensively and driven a large car, was no ordinary person, or at least stronger than the average person.

The onlookers, who were watching, surrounded Liu Laifu, who was not wearing any clothes, in the middle.

The man, who was in his sixties, was not much to look at, but he was the protagonist of the peach incident, and people liked to watch this kind of hilarity, more than the New Year's Eve drama.

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When people were pointing fingers at Liu Laifu, they inevitably had to bring up Sister Xu.

The sarcastic woman says bad things about Sister Xu, telling her that she is a failure as a woman, and what's the use of earning more money, and her husband can't even look at her.

The woman who said this was a peer of Sister Xu's, both in the fruit business, but her family's business was not as prosperous as Sister Xu's, so she was jealous of Sister Xu.

Now she finally caught a chance, driven by jealousy, she said a lot of bad things about Sister Xu, derogatory Sister Xu, saying that she was domineering and brutal, Liu Laifu could not stand her, so he changed his mind.

Some did not know the truth and believed it, but some reasonable people could distinguish between right and wrong and felt that Sister Xu was also a victim of this incident and should not be attacked personally.

She was sitting at home when the pot came from the sky, and it hit her with a thud.

Sister Xu also complained! She was an honest person, serious about her business, who had she provoked, and she was being judged and criticized by everyone.

She married a "scum" man just because of her bad eyesight? There is no way to justify this.

The man does not live a good life, out of the three and four or her fault, this time, no matter what can not tolerate, leave, must leave, rather than be "cut" also have to leave.

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Sister Xu has proposed divorce to Liu Laifu countless times before but was frightened by Liu Laifu's big offer.

"The first thing you need to do is to give me 600,000 yuan and I'll divorce you, or I'll keep you for the rest of my life.

Liu Laifu, a man who is getting more and more mixed up the older he gets, and whose family's money is all hard-earned by Sister Xu, is offering 600,000 yuan at the drop of a hat, and will not divorce if he doesn't give it, blackmailing Sister Xu with this.

Sister Xu also understands in her heart that even if she gives Liu Laifu 600,000 and divorces him, he will still come back to haunt her after he has spent the money.

The easier the money is to get, the more Sister Xu will be her "stranglehold", he took Sister Xu as a "cash cow", how easily will he stop?

Liu Laifu is getting more and more bastardized with age, especially after his children have gone away, he has become even more reckless, simply rogue.

He wasn't really like this when he was younger, when he was still a decent person, when his wife died and he managed to feed his five-year-old daughter and not let her starve, so he was a bit responsible.

It was when her stepdaughter was five years old that Xu married Liu Laifu, and it was probably because she felt pity for her stepdaughter that she entered the Liu family.

Xu was an old girl when she married, and at that time, the average age of girls in her county was about twenty years old, so at thirty, she was a deservedly "old woman".

There was a reason for her marrying so late: her parents had died young and she had to support her younger siblings and bring them up so that she could look after herself.

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At that time, Xu's parents were selling fruit at a stall, and once when they were on their way to pull a load, it snowed heavily and the road was cold and slippery, so the car couldn't brake and fell through a guardrail into a deep ditch, killing the couple instantly.

Sister Xu, who was eighteen at the time, supported her family by selling fruit from her stall and providing for her two brothers and one sister.

Sister Xu had a talent for business, and her ability to make money from a small fruit stall to a fruit shop, and from one shop to two shops, and two shops to four shops, gave many people a thumbs up.

Of course, as her business got better and better, she was also noticed by many people. After all, Sister Xu, with her younger siblings, belonged to the disadvantaged group, and all the seven aunts and uncles wanted to come to her for a share of the profits.

She was so tough that she would fight with anyone who dared to take advantage of her business, scaring off many villains who took advantage of her and leaving a bad reputation.

When Sister Xu wanted to find a husband, people did not dare to introduce her to anyone, because she was notorious for her fierceness.

For various reasons, Xu married Liu Laifu, whose wife had died of illness and who had a daughter with her.

She took pity on her stepdaughter and treated her as if she were her daughter.

Later, when she had a son of her own, she did not treat her stepdaughter lightly, and as a result, she grew up to be closer to her than to her father.

When her stepdaughter and son both went to work and study in the big city, the family was left with only Xu and Liu Laifu, who became even more carefree, making one demon after another.

Liu Laifu took the money from the shop and played with it. The rest of Xu's life was brought to her by Liu Laifu

However, after experiencing that disgraceful event in the street, Xu's divorce was settled once and for all, and Liu Laifu took the breakup money given by Xu to go abroad, and then had no face to go back home to the county.

However, the marriage was divorced, but the mockery of Sister Xu was still around: "What's the use of her being so capable, she still can't even keep a man."

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So, when a woman is over 50 and finds her husband betrayed, should she divorce or settle for less? What happened to her is heartbreaking.

Some people say that marriage is a big gamble, called Xu said, marriage is always accompanied by risks and surprises.

A person's life is long, and no one knows when the person they are married to will change his or her face.

The chicken soup article says: "There is a kind of woman, married to anyone happy." I beg to differ with this statement.

Marriage is a dance between two people, and you can't get a happy marriage by working alone.

There are many things in this world that we may be able to do by working hard and being diligent, but marriage is the only thing we can't do.

But some people don't think so, just like those who talked about Sister Xu after her husband was thrown on the street, saying that it was useless even if she had a good business and that she still couldn't keep a man's heart.

In their minds, Liu Laifu's betrayal must have been due to Xu's problems.

These people think that it is because Sister Xu is too capable, too strong, too ungrateful to men, too indifferent to men's emotions, and too ungentlemanly and virtuous that her husband betrayed his marriage.

In short, it is Liu Laifu who goes out and fools around, and Sister Xu must be responsible for his actions, I don't know what logic is involved.

Why should Sister Xu be responsible for Liu Laifu's betrayal and his failure to do the right thing? It doesn't make sense!

Liu Laifu is more than 60 years old, can he not know what will happen if he goes to someone's house for a rendezvous?

Of course, he knows, he understands it in his heart, but he doesn't try to restrain his desire.

Liu Laifu knew that sooner or later this matter would be exposed and would put Xu in an unpleasant situation, but he still knowingly committed the crime, which only proves that he is thinking with his lower half body and has no bottom line.

Liu Laifu did something bad, and Xu should not take the blame for him.

No one is born perfect, and neither is marriage. No one in the world can guarantee that their marriage will be perfect.

So, please don't judge others, let alone point fingers at the victims of marriage, no one is qualified to define what is right or wrong for others.

I hope that those who love to judge people's rights and wrongs will "put aside your moral cleansing and learn to treat people with tolerance".

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Many people are in a situation like Xu's, where they choose to let go of a bad marriage and start a new life for themselves, only to be subjected to the gossip of the world around them, which is invariably a huge pressure.

This is precisely why many women are afraid of divorce, facing the strange eyes of people around them, not willing to be talked about behind their backs, rather than continue to suffer in the marriage, but also refuse to give themselves a chance to pursue happiness.

This is both unfair and sad for women. All of these phenomena exist in reality, and many times it is true that they cannot be avoided, but it has to be said that since they cannot be avoided, you have to be brave enough to face them.

Because you need to understand that you are only responsible for your own life and not live in the eyes and opinions of others. That will only delay your happiness, and how is that not putting the cart before the horse and losing more than you gain?

So, women, you need to learn to make yourself strong, have a strong heart, and, have enough courage to face the storms of life to truly control your destiny.

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