"One Hundred Years of Solitude" said: "We are tired, but we can't stop; we suffer, but we can't avoid it."
Life is not easy, bitter and tired, has constituted the normal life.
The strong are accustomed to turning their lives into silent mode, turning setbacks into motivation and moving forward.
The weak indulge in self-pity, full of complaints and unwillingness. At the end of the day, my life became more and more miserable.
Those who are imprisoned by "weak thinking" will show the following three signs.
lazy and sick
My friend Wenhao is tired of working from 9 to 5. After he planned a freelance career for himself, he resigned excitedly.
After saying goodbye to the days of getting up early to catch the bus and squeeze the subway, his life suddenly became more comfortable.
He slept until he woke up naturally every day, played games, watched videos, ordered takeout when he was hungry, and continued to sleep when he was sleepy. This kind of life made him overjoyed.
When someone else comes home from a day's work, his day is just beginning.
After such a life has continued for a period of time, his body and spirit are in a very "idle" state.
Due to staying up late for a long time, he often felt dizzy and tinnitus. And because he stared at the phone for too long, his eyes were dry and tired, and his eyesight decreased.
Now, he has begun to worry about life, and even has depression.
An overly idle life is a breeding ground for decadence.
In life, a little leisure is a blessing, but too much leisure is a disaster.
A landowner visited a Zen master and said, "I feel dizzy and weak, and the tonics are not working. Am I suffering from a strange disease?"
The Zen master asked him, "What do you do every day?"
The landlord said: "My wife does things at home, and my son does things outside. I have been idle."
The Zen master said: "This disease is easy to cure. You go up the mountain to chop a bundle of firewood every day, and then carry it home. If you chop for 30 days in a row, the disease will be cured."
A month later, the landlord came to visit the Zen master again: "You asked me to chop wood every day, and now I feel that my whole body is full of energy."
The Zen master said, "Actually, what you are suffering from is laziness, you are too busy to make trouble."
If a house is left vacant for a long time, it will naturally lack popularity; if a field is idle for a long time, it will be overgrown with weeds; if a person is used to being idle, life will lack vitality and diseases will follow.
As Zeng Guofan said: "All diseases in the world are born of laziness."
If a person is lazy in working, exercising, and thinking, his life will be affected one after another like dominoes.
Only by getting rid of laziness and being diligent can make your life more brilliant.
A thousand worries
Excessive mental internal consumption will make people show a state of "low battery".
Not only will it reduce our ability to act, but it will also affect our satisfaction with life, and even breed a negative perception of self-existence.
The Italian short film "Saturday", released in 2015, vividly demonstrated the negative effects of mental internal friction by interpreting the day of a lonely and tangled man living alone. Today, it is still full of practical significance.
On Saturday morning, while eating a banana, the male protagonist made a quick list of things to do for the day in his brain:
Do the dishes, do the laundry, clean the bathroom, call mom, take out the trash, pay the bills, reward yourself with something interesting at night…
The images in my mind kept jumping in sequence.
What is the best thing to do first? What can this thing be done in tandem with? What are the good and bad results after everything is done?
The hero tries to find the best way to do things.
The time soon came to the evening, the day went by, the clothes were not washed, the room was not cleaned, the bills were not paid, the hero did not do anything, but the body and mind were full of great exhaustion.
The film is only 3 minutes long, but it deduces the tangled day of the male protagonist.
In reality, if we have been in a state of mental internal friction for a long time, we may unknowingly waste a lifetime of time.
The Japanese writer Yataro Matsuura once said: "Those who are often trapped in anxiety and anxiety often have the bad problem of thinking too much."
On the way forward, it is not scary to encounter difficulties, what is scary is the imagined difficulties.
Once a person becomes a prisoner of thinking, not only will physical strength and energy be thrown away, but even the determination and willpower to do things will be destroyed.
Abandon too much mental internal friction and win a war with yourself.
In the future, in the face of any difficulties, we will be invincible and invincible.
Lao Tzu once said: "There is no misfortune greater than dissatisfaction, and no blame greater than desire, so contentment is always enough."
If people indulge their own desires and become too greedy, they will not only lose what they already have, but also lead to disaster.
Only when one is content with constant contentment will one be forever rich.
There is a famous storyteller who once told a story of "settling home".
In 2002, he bought his first house in Beijing.
A few days after settling in his new home, he began to regret it. He felt that if it was done in one step, it would be better to buy a bigger set.
Later, he liked a house of more than 300 square meters, and he would rather be heavily in debt and insist on buying the house. However, because of the debt pressure, he lost the joy of buying a big house.
When he finally paid off the debt, it didn't take long for him to turn around and buy a bigger house.
Now, he finally lives in this ideal big house. But he didn't feel happier because of this. Instead, he often quarreled with the property and quarreled with the garden workers.
Maybe his original intention to settle down was just to live in a city, to have a house of his own, and to live a good life.
But when his wish came true, his desire began to swell. He is no longer satisfied with the status quo, but wants a house with a larger area, a better location, and a more luxurious decoration.
Desire made him want more, but it also fell deeper.
Greed is the root of all evil.
There was once a company that hired private car drivers with high salaries. After several rounds of selection, three candidates were qualified for the final interview.
The question for the final round of interviews was this: "A gold bar falls on the edge of a cliff. If you are asked to drive to pick it up, with your driving skills, how close can you get to the cliff without falling?"
The first answer: "20 cm."
The second is full of confidence: "10 cm is enough."
The third one shook his head: "I'd better stay away."
As soon as this statement came out, the first two applicants were scolding him for his cowardice and poor driving skills, and they both felt that they had a chance to win.
But when the interview results were announced, only the third was hired.
As a driver, the most important responsibility is to ensure the safety of passengers.
If you are driven by desire, forget your original intention as a driver, and take risks, no matter how good your driving skills are, there will always be a day when you fall off a cliff.
Zhuangzi has a saying: "The covetousness of wealth leads to danger, and the covetousness of power leads to exhaustion."
In the face of all kinds of temptations in life, if you cannot restrain your desires, you will easily lose your mind and eventually lose yourself.
Romain Rolland said: "There is only one heroism in the world, that is, after recognizing the truth of life, still loving life."
No one is born a king, it is nothing more than crowning himself through the trials and tribulations of life.
Say goodbye to laziness, do things practically, and control the direction of life.
Reject internal friction, embrace life, and find the true meaning of happiness in life.
Control your desires, keep your original intentions, and reap the beauty of the world.
Life is full of oceans. May you and I both abandon the thinking of the weak and continue to expand the boundaries of life.