Maybe a help how to make you leave the narc more easy

Narcissistic partners are never over their exes so as an empath and highly sensitive to be with such a monstro who not only bring into the relation a kind of a heavy luggage from a past this luggage is not a sadness its not just a nostalgic memory of being with someone that they so called loved. This luggage is a terrible insider conflict of their own ego and the so called love yes, they call it a love. While being with them the love for the one before who they couldn't treat any better than they will treat You, will be your backpack of a horrible disturbances between your own free healthy feeling of happiness and joy of love you do carry for them. As an empath and highly sensitive without programming yourself through your choosen practices You will be going through a double kind of a horror. The one will be where You are on a plate for the love the "We". The another is always their ex, ex lover, ex wife and sometimes even someone who was and is still around. As long as in a normal relation this things are being naturally removed and cleaned and comforted with a real human talk. In the narcissistic relation they will be the number 1 nightmare in each experience and story of You. Of course there will be an exception where the narcissist will have that love bombing phase with You and for a moment of being You will be their best in a way in a talk but never in action and in the real of the reality itself. They might be also psychopaths so it will be very easy for you to find out additional plays just after you accomodate yourself with them what I mean you already slept after that the behaviour especially of the somatic one will turn into the phase of how I can now cruelly make her or his life a living hell. One way if you are from narcissistic family and You are out thanks to the relation with Him or Her you will feel plenty of freedom a kind of Your own private space that will be always a surface for the narcissistic person You are with to eat from that plate and nourish them with all the best that You have to offer always bringing you down to the core. If you just happen to love them unconditionally the chains the phases of bad behaviors and provocation will have no end on a daily basis affecting your life on all level of it and ending up with getting really sick sooner or later on such mental and physical wrecking will have its consequences and the healing will last months years because the amount of narcissist seem much more higher than really good people in this world so before you overcome it all for real that you will be able to laugh. You will have plenty of narcissist around playing on you their dirty games making it harder to recover and forget. It is more likely that your narcissistic partner remind You of Your mother, father sister or brother and they probably are the same kind of a people and pattern just covered in a different story and different experiences in life. Sure there are so many good things and positive ones at first You may think that way also healing from them make you to still carry a love. What I wanted emphasize in here is to focus on all the bad terrible things that really did happen whether You are aware of them or not. Whether they hurt you or not anymore You are in a conflict in heart and relation with another human is not about a conflict is about unity and connection and finding similar lands that will make your journey with another possible. The thing is how can You feel real pure Joy and Freedom with someone who did really horrible things to You and You probably can instantly jump into them and healing from these things for an empath and highly sensitive it's a completely different kind of an arrival into the consciousness and love f0r Your own true self even without knowing where Your own true self has left or maybe it never left. You just were so good with yourself and You felt the world so full of beauty so that You wanted someone to share it with fixing and healing on a way and You probably did a great healing for this person however You might never really recovered from it for real until now. As being in such relation means there are some issues and some problems and probably they are much deeper suppressing your whole. Yes family will be the cause of it all and many people describe it all as childhood traumas or experiences growing up with narcissistic parents. In my case and I think in many of the people who are adult this experience is the everyday being of You. You are thrown literally in a mental hospital (the family ) and the only doctor the only sane person is You. There are no real friends and it happens really seldom to find true real people when you share things with the people who carry the mental issues they often call themselves the crazy ones and believe them because I did not and its another crazy ride. Sharing such things to the crazy ones you not only become their free psychologist for years but you go deeper into your own issues without a friend but entirely being the friend for another as long as the talk with such people lead you to many of the discovery Your emotional sphere doesn't feel any better or lighter and You keep on catching of the issues of another without being given the real love and friendship that should be quite obvious. The lonely road is left yes. However how much of a lonely road it is we are all connected anyway so it depends how You do feel Yourself How You do feel in yourself and how do You feel another and how much of another you can really stand and handle. Seems like highly sensitive and empath can handle much more than people without born empathy and ability to feel another as if their own pain and suffering. Let's face it you can make things really simply while coexisting with narcissist because they are truly very simple human beings but on a long way it will not be enough for You it will be eating you from the inside out and the outside the ongoing manipulation, abuse, rage, isolation, being blocked from all around. And yes you can say but world isn't any better people aren't also. Should I be alone ? well with a narc You are more than alone You are entirely killed from the joy of life. You are cut off from all that You love and can do, you are cut off from progress and You need to do million other things to manage your being and still stay sane because of the entire damage until you can really program yourself in a human way heal daily to recover daily. So that at least all the other symptoms will lessen their impact on You. However as highly sensitive and empath we can take joy from all these experiences of difficult unhappy people as they are only happy when they hurt. As someone who is entirely thrown into such environment from a childhood it becomes a different kind of a journey and yes it causes all the bad issue like chronic illness, panic attack, trauma responses. When you start to heal not with the help of somebody but really alone on your own You will discover things this world will never understand and they will truly work for You in coexisting with another.

It will never be as easy as living with someone empathic or alone but life is about someone else and somebody else and when we heal another even if there is too much quite too often we realize that no matter the person the heaviness is quite strong for us anyway and maybe often the connection from love is where we place our heart and mind the most. Stop that is what causes all these turbulences so whenever You feel like You wanna come back to the hurting ex, make a list of things that were truly unbearable at least in your head, You don't need to write it all down you will get scarred I am sure so after that As You choose love for You for Yourself You will want to be protected at all cost. Aren't you curious about another experience in life another more healthy person ? You never know but if You focus on bringing Yourself into love, love will find You too. It can be all kind of Love

Once You are out from the hurting bad the zombies, monstros that make your soul and heart in pieces or even if they can not anymore isn't that great ? I think it feels more than fantastic to be safe to feel free and to be yourself.

I think after all when You know, they are so disgusting creatures nobody would like to have contact with them Your family and friends are enough of a heavy luggage to take on daily so as for the Love one is better to Love Yourself.

Also consider the fact that the things that are already happening with Your body and mind as of them are not something normal and to remove to reduce this abnormalities, sensations, reactions and being a human is something to take care of first instead connecting or reconnecting with a narc over and over again if You just simply don't need it.

Only when You will truly learn how to tap inside of You how to tap inside of Your own being and heart from there the unconditional love can be healing for this world. Connecting with narc you will be cut off from this ability to help another for real and You will be raged for every attempt to do so. So if you are the type of a healer or an empath think about the consequences and what is more having children with such monster it's a Danger ! and we have enough of it observing our families, neighbors, children we just have enough of the bad in everywhere so think about the future of Your family being with someone for their physical appearance or their public laugh, public joy but real torture in the private space is not worth Your real truth self. Healing of everyday is the place to look for yourself to experience love and light that takes it place !

This is how I heal and say goodbye to such monstrous misbehave :

You can laugh You can heal You can express Yourself ! Everyday is a different experience different healing phase and just being in here on earth is a place to consider I am loved by the whole Universe ! and I am the love for myself ! no matter the people around no matter the place ! I am strong enough I am powerful and I will go through each phase as humanily as I simply can without no more loosing myself ! cause that is who I am expressing the next in my own variety of ways !