I would rather be alone than deliberately pursue interpersonal kindness and noise.

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Most people have a strong desire for interpersonal kindness. People don't want to have conflicts with anyone. They want to maintain a good and gentle relationship with everyone. Compared with the pursuit of interests, the desire in this aspect seems to be indifferent, and it is not easy to attract people's attention. It is easier for us to find that some people pursue material things by unscrupulous means, and express disdain and criticism. But there is no similar evaluation of those desires for interpersonal kindness. In fact, the pursuit of interpersonal kindness is the same, when we care too much and pay too much attention to this time, is it not a kind of greed or even evil? However, it is not in the form of direct material, it is invisible but also points to interests.

If you pay too much attention to this time, people's behavior will be kind and convenient to others everywhere. The people who get along with him also feel like a spring breeze and think that this person is a good person, because he is always generous, often gives selflessly in material matters, always thinks what people think, and provides rational advice and services for people. If only this, such a person is already very perfect.

But behavior is the externalization of thought, and there are two possibilities behind the externalized good behavior. Some people's idea of being kind to others is the benefit of greed in good relationships, and it is a habitual psychological pursuit of stability, and they still have some dependence on their hearts, especially on the interpersonal relationships of the rich and noble. They want to find stability and interests in the generalization of kindness, and when they encounter major events, we can find that their inner selfishness is much more than expected. Therefore, their hearts are greedy, they are not self-reliant in spirit, and they always want to find themselves in external things.

In fact, a person's thought can change a lot of things. When you are kind to others, there is a great difference between what you want and what you don't want. When we have nothing to ask for, our hearts naturally reveal that giving kindness to others is not for return, it is only out of the expression of our heart or conscience, and we do not imagine that our thoughtfulness is to catch "prey". However, this is not the case in reality. When people care about good relations with others, they hide their personality and pursuit. They would rather cut their hearts to adapt to others, even in the face of innocuous right and wrong. They can also show extraordinary patience, because we are too reluctant to argue with others and produce contradictions.

Our views, thoughts, and actions are all affected by this, so that even if we have the right understanding, we are unwilling to express, let alone act, in order to maintain a good relationship. More sadly, most people think this is right and ridicule people who show their personality.

In addition, people's cognition and the category of right and wrong do not match completely. "I" and "you" have different attitudes towards something. If they don't influence each other, they can make peace with each other. "I" don't have to argue with "you" and force "you" to accept my point of view. If it interferes with normal life, it is necessary to worry about it. There is no need to be kind to others, and there is no need to become a false and unreal person for the sake of superficial kindness. Sincere people are sometimes lonely, unwilling to cater to others because they care about themselves, but sincere people are most likely to do excellent things, precisely because of intransigence and non-conformity.