May you have the heart of a Bodhisattva and the means of King Kong.

The old saying says, "A filial son comes out under a stick, and a good man comes out under a bauhinia stick."

True goodwill requires not only the compassionate heart of Bodhisattva, but also the means of King Kong Thunderbolt.

I have a friend who is very kind. If there are poor relatives in the family to borrow money, he will not refuse.

Later, the behavior of his poor relative became more and more intense, and when his friend looked embarrassed, he said evil words, slandering his friend, which was discrimination against him.

Seemingly docile and indulgent "foolishness" is not only no good, but an indulgence to bad habits and laziness.

And those acts that are ruthless on the outside but full of love in the heart are the highest wisdom and the most selfless kindness in the world.

01. Without the means of King Kong, kindness will be hurt.

You must still remember the unabated Mercedes-Benz oil spill.

A few months ago, a female car owner in Xi'an caused widespread concern about the rights protection of a Mercedes-Benz 4s store.

The lady spent 660000 yuan on a famous car in Xi'an. As a result, the engine began to leak before the car left the gate.

The female car owner is highly educated and well educated. Instead of losing her temper on the spot, she negotiated reasonably with the 4S store three times, hoping to get a satisfactory explanation.

As a result, this 4s store saw that the owner of the female car was very gentle and easy to bully, and even refused to deal with it for a long time.

Finally, the female car owner in line with the principle of intolerable, no longer need to endure, regardless of face went to the 4s store to make a scene.

The female car owner sat on the hood without image, crying and shouting, and the matter even spread to the Internet, which attracted due attention.

Through this "outrageous" safeguard of rights, Mercedes-Benz finally made an apology and reached a compensation settlement with the female car owner.

Knowing books and doing things wisely is a virtue that a person should have.

But when you encounter an unreasonable and aggressive villain, your kindness will become a reason for the other party to hurt you.

For such a person, it is futile to negotiate with him reasonably many times. The more patient you are, the more greedy he is.

Kind-hearted people always do not care about temporary gains and losses, but let people with ulterior motives taste the benefits.

So they continue to do evil without scruples, challenging the bottom line of morality again and again.

Without a strong confidence, benevolent goodness will be reduced to indulgent evil.

Therefore, the most effective way to deal with this kind of bullying is to fight against it, without hesitation or withdrawal.

The evil in human nature must be stopped in time, not allowed to spread at will, so that goodness can have the strength.

In order to avoid innocent victims again and again, your kindness must take some edge!

02. Without the wrist of King Kong, it is hard to be kind.

Confucius once said, "when the administration is lenient, the people will snub, and the snub will be corrected by severe measures."

If the administration is strict, the people will be hurt, and if the people are hurt, they will comfort them in a lenient way.

Leniency and strictness are used to regulate severity, and strictness is used to regulate leniency and harmony, so that political affairs are harmonious. "

The best principle of dealing with people is "combining strength with softness". If you are tolerant, you will be tolerant, and if you are strict, you will be strict.

Zuo Zhuan records such a story:

The prime minister of the State of Zheng gave birth to a serious illness, and time was running out.

On his deathbed, Zicheng said to his successor uncle, "only by treating people with good morality can we convince the public with a tolerant attitude, and we should be more strict with people with bad conduct."

Uncle was so kind-hearted that he could not bear to carry out severe punishment, so he managed Zheng with a lenient attitude.

As a result, there were many thieves in the state of Zheng. they did everything evil and were entrenched in a lake called Cui Kui.

After knowing this, Uncle Tai regretted it very much. he said, "if I had listened to the birth of Lao Xiangzi, Zheng would not have been reduced to such a land."

He immediately sent troops to suppress the bandits of Cui Fu and killed all the thieves, so that the bandits of the State of Zheng were restrained.

We all hope that good people will be rewarded, but in life, good intentions can also do bad things.

After all, human nature is complex, and not everyone has good self-consciousness.

When we meet those villains who do not eat hard and soft, we should take some thunderstorm measures to force them to stop the atrocities.

As the saying goes, "if a dog bites Lu Dongbin, he does not know a good heart."

Upbringing is a good thing, but unfortunately not everyone has it.

In the face of messing around and unreasonable people, your upbringing and kindness may also become an excuse for the other party to be presumptuous.

Some people, just do not eat a toast, do not eat and punish wine, do not undergo a little pain education, they will never repent!

03. True kindness needs to be refined into steel.

Psychologist Wang Yangming said: "people have to hone in things, do kung fu, is beneficial."

Kindness without experience is like flowers in a greenhouse, naturally unable to withstand the destruction of wind and rain.

Wang Yangming is also a loyal and good man by nature, and his life has also experienced hardships and hardships.

Dissatisfied with the exercise of power by eunuchs, he offended the eunuch Liu Jin and was demoted to Longchang in Guizhou to manage a small post station.

The local area is not yet civilized, closed and backward, and it is almost impossible to see the Han people who speak the same language, and the officials sent by the court are even more rare.

The living conditions in these wild places are already poor, coupled with the fact that the local miasma is rampant, many officials did not die of miasma. Just ran away.

The immediate life is full of devastation, but Wang Yangming has not given up hope.

He found that these people are not savages, they can also use Chinese characters, but the language is not clear.

So Wang Yangming personally educated the people and taught them the skills of farming and building houses. Soon, Wang Yangming became a great kind man in the mouth of the local people.

It is this Kong-like perseverance that keeps Wang Yangming moving forward. In the end, Wang Yangming realized the Tao in this Longchang and became the aggregator of the study of mind.

Everyone's life will be faced with a variety of challenges.

It is obviously not enough to have a soft and kind heart. if we want to laugh at the end, we also need to hone a firm will to help ourselves face difficulties and obstacles.

Xu Beihong once said: "one cannot be arrogant, but one cannot be without arrogance."

Spineless kindness is not goodness, it just turns itself into a fish at the mercy of fate.

The world is big, there are all kinds of people, we can not guarantee that we will meet a sincere good person, or a villain with a fake smile.

In order not to let the external environment change the good heart, we all the more need to face life with the backbone of King Kong.

The most wonderful attitude towards life is to have a tiger in your heart and sniff the rose.

For the rest of our lives, may we all maintain a Bodhisattva heart and develop a body of King Kong skills.