Myra Humphrey
Bio
I am 47 I raised two kids alone I struggled with my weight for years I had weight loss surgery and ended up having complications and spent two years in the hospital. Recently gotten married and opened a catering business with my husband
Stories (3/0)
Grief
The summer of 1995 I was excited and scared all at the same time. I was just 21 and about to become a mother. Not knowing what to expect or what kind of mother I was going to be I was scared. October 5th 1995 it was storming I had been up most the night hurting in my lower back about 5:30 that afternoon I went to the hospital I was due three days prior. I told them I wasn’t sure if I was in labor or not because I wasn’t having contractions but I hurt real bad in my lower back. They took me to Labor and delivery and sure enough I was in labor the nurse checked me and I was completely dilated. So the nurse delivered my son eight minutes after I arrived at the hospital. For the next 8 weeks I was happy and in love. Then the worst happened. My mom had my son while I was at work, and a lady from the hospital came and got me from work and took me to the hospital. This lady would not tell me nothing. When I walked in and seen my mom I knew something bad was wrong. For two hours I couldn’t see my son all I was told was they was going to air lift him to another hospital that could help him better. My mom told me he had stopped breathing. As they was getting him ready to walk out the hospital they let me see him. The hardest thing for a mother seeing her child hurt and can’t help or hold or touch. I watched as the helicopter flew out of sight heading to another hospital a two hour drive for us. Feeling hopeless and scared to death of what was going on and what could happen. When we got to the hospital they told me my child was going to NICU and I could be with him and the doctors would come in and talk to me. At 21 I had to make decisions I wouldn’t want anyone to have to make. My son was brain dead. He has SIDS. The week before my 22nd birthday I had to say goodbye to my first born child. I had to tell doctors whether or not to keep machines on or cut them off. They gave me and hour to make the decision. I wouldn’t want to be living like that so I chose to turn the machines off because if he was going to be here God would pull him through it without machines. My son has been gone for 26 years this year and they say time heals all wounds, but time never heals a broken heart. The pain has gotten easier to deal with but I still deal with it everyday. When I see kids his age I wonder what he would look like where he would be in life what he would be doing. Would he be married and have kids what kind of job would he have.
By Myra Humphrey3 years ago in Humans
Soul Food After Dark
Over 40 years experience they fall right off the bone trying to open our own catering business, but seem to be getting knocked down more than we can get ahead. We have many people who want our food and love it. We have baby back ribs, brisket, pulled pork, chicken, onion ranch burgers crowder peas, homemade macaroni and cheese, green beans, greens, pinto beans, white beans, hot water cornbread, smoked cabbage, our own special sauce we make from scratch, peach cobbler, banana pudding and we do smoked turkeys deep fried turkey’s. We enjoy cooking and love it so we take pride in everything we do. We have been working on getting our garage changed into a commercial kitchen so we can get our license so we will be legal and not be in violation of anything. It’s been so hard we have no help and have no clue where to turn to get help to do all this. Our dream is to get this up and going and doing what we love and enjoy. We have our name trade marked in the State of Tennessee. Now to figure out the funding part to get everything else up and going and we will be good to go. Hopefully one day we can go to more places of than right in the little community we are in. Once you try the food we promise you will love it and that’s will always be our guarantee to anyone.
By Myra Humphrey3 years ago in Journal
My journey
This is my many and endless days and months I spent in and out of the hospital from having complications from weight loss surgery. There was times I didn’t think I was going to come home from the hospital and a few times I shouldn’t have. I weighed 277 when I went into have the surgery and in 9 month I was 95 pounds it was a roller coaster for me. Having two kids at home under 18 and not knowing from one day to the next was hard. My son ask “mom are you gonna die on me” and that broke my heart. I had my surgery on March 15, 2015 everything went well two days later I went home. Then on Easter Sunday 2015 I got sick I thought it was because I was with friends at a cookout and could eat what they was having and it was hot out. Went home ended up going to the emergency room around 4 in the morning I was dehydrated and in major pain. I was there a few hours they sent me home, and I went back on Wednesday morning still sick throwing up so by this time I am thinking I am sticking from helping my friend because her five kids had been with with a stomach virus. The emergency room doctors wouldn’t call the surgeon and talk to him about me being there and this was just three weeks after surgery. When I went home I called his office and went in on that Friday to see him and he admitted me to the hospital I spent a week he did a scope and stretched my stomach because it was closing up. By May I was having my first revision of this surgery. At this time I had been in and out the hospital more than I was at home. In July he removed my gallbladder and by September I was having the second revision of the surgery. Nothing seem to be helping. At this point I would be home maybe 24 hours after being released from the hospital before being admitted again. I spent the entire month of November in the hospital having my third revision of the surgery and by this time I had about 21 scopes done. I was in there for Christmas and New Years and went home 12 hours later I was back and had to have a feeding tube placed because by this time I only weighed 95 pounds and still couldn’t eat or drink anything. Still spending countless days and nights in the hospital feeling like there was no hope insight I felt hopeless. Finally in August of 2016 I had my fourth revision a two and a half hour surgery took five and a half hours my left lung collapsed 30 minutes into surgery they had to place a chest tube before finishing surgery the worst pain ever. I finally got the feeding tube taken out two weeks after I went home and I started gaining some weight back. The worst surgery of all was the one that helped me the most. There was many time I should have never came home from the hospital but did. It took me two years to gain weight back to be a normal healthy weight. And for the last two years I have maintained a weight of 150. I still have issues but nothing like on the beginning. If you would have ask me back then if I regret having it done I would have said yes, but now I look at it that I was blessed and I am still here for a reason and I don’t question that reason. I have many people ask me many questions about the surgery and if they have had it and have problems they really ask me questions. My advice to anyone when it comes to weight loss surgery is do your research and think long and hard about it before making your decision. Make sure you also have plenty of people to support you and stand with you regardless your decision because only you can make that decision. Many will say it’s the easy way out but what they don’t know it’s really not because this surgery changes your life forever regardless whether it’s good or bad it changes your life and you.
By Myra Humphrey3 years ago in Longevity
