It started out quaint. I had always done best alone, in my own little desert with my books and starry nights. I liked it that way, until I didn’t. I wanted to share my books and words with someone else, shine my trusty lamp light on my solo desert adventures late at night. But as I said, I liked it until I didn’t, so I went on an adventure to find a fellow desert island to share the books and stars with; and that’s exactly what I did.
When you get married, should you change your name? Will it be assumed that this article is aimed at female readers? I hope not.
So many of us share this story. We met the man of our dreams. He was everything we had always hoped for and more then we had ever imagined. In just a few short weeks we felt as though we knew him forever, he was our soulmate, what was life without him?
Facebook is something we use to stay connected with one another. Something we use to see the experiences we have and share. Something some rely on to keep occupied in the bathroom. We play games, like photos, share opinions, laugh at the cute and funny dog videos, scroll through current news and happenings around the world, and my personal favourite, look back on our memories.
In today's day and age, it is an interesting concept to consider why men are weird about strong women. When feminists try to build close relationships with people and begin dating, it is more serious than a normal dating situation because of feminism's inert strength and direction. Every intersectional feminist has strong views and wants a partner who is an accomplice in the fight against white supremacy, the patriarchy, queerphobia, and misogyny. Everyday feminism can be extreme, but people who go beyond allyship and are true accomplices can be found in the world if you know what questions to ask. Personal is political in the world today when our world is so divided. To get close to someone, we must know where everyone stands on important issues. Here are things every feminist should ask on a first date, so they don’t waste any time!
High school love is extremely blinding. I believe the reason that I was blind in love was because I learned to love someone else before loving myself, or even knowing myself. However, in your teenagers years, you think you know what’s best for you at the moment and you don’t want to take advice from anyone. I was so in “love” that I didn't realize that I was in a toxic relationship.
Recently, in therapy I was given an assignment to write all the things unsaid to my abuser down, seal it in an envelope, and never send it to him. "Well what good does not sending it do?" you may ask. You see, this healing process is for me alone, not him. While I was instructed not to send it, I decided that I should publish it. The message in it holds a special meaning to me. You can't hold tight to the pain others have caused you without hurting yourself. I hope my letter finds you, wherever you are in your journey, and my words help you understand that forgiveness isn't for your abuser, but for yourself!
Last January I met you at the bar across the street from where I lived. I never saw you there before and by looking at you, I could tell I was interested. You were sitting next to two guys and talking after you ordered a beer.
I remember when I finally dumped one of my abusive exes. He bawled his eyes out, promised he would change, the works—just as he did last time. I wasn't having it. I knew, deep down in my heart, that he wouldn't change. Rather, he only really wanted the perks of dating me back.