Family life from the feminist perspective; can women have it all? Can anyone?
On Being Child-Free
When people find out that I'm not having kids, I often hear things through the grapevine like, 'she'll change her mind', or 'there's little purpose without children', or, 'it's selfish not to have kids'.
Why I'm Obsessed with the Bloodshed of Birth
When I was little, I was curious about childbirth simply because it was never talked about. A woman would grow a baby in her belly, it would become a big bump, then one day, a baby appeared as if by magic.
Like a Rock
When I was a kid, my older brother used to grab me by the waist and throw me over his shoulder. He would swoop in catching me off guard with a triumphant, "HAHA! Gotcha!"
It's Like Joining The Circus...
Before I got pregnant, I thought that all of the "New Moms" in my circle were intentionally going out of their way to cut me out.
No Baby, No Problem
"I always say my biological clock must be digital because I've never heard it ticking." ― Lucy Dillon, Lost Dogs, and Lonely Hearts
'Men Think About Business and Women Think About Men'
This is the kind of information I have known all of my life, even though it was hidden somewhere in a little drawer inside my brain, but it was only when I heard it from Corinne Fisher's mouth that I absorbed it truly.
I’ve been living a filtered life, a life that most of us wish we had from the looks of it. My life is not perfect, but I almost put on an act to make it seem like everything is “okay.” From having the most laid back job, which is has decent pay, to traveling recently for my music. People that don’t really know who I am, but know me on social media keep telling me, “ you must be living the life, you’re traveling all over the place now.” And trust me, I am not trying to make it seem like I am ungrateful for it. I am completely grateful for it, but I have worked my ass bussing tables and taking orders from people who yell in my face, but I still have to put a smile on my face and do what I am told, but i’ve grown such a thick skin for people who treat others below them to not bother me because at the end of the day they are really not happy in their lives themselves.
The Importance of Women Who Aren't Our Mothers
I love my mom. I would be a liar if I didn't say that she is one of the most influential people in my life. However, recently I realized maybe she needed to share the Sacred Maternal Mountain.
Do the Bump!
Unsurprisingly, the world has not moved on in the seven and a half years since I procreated, and the toxicity of the UK press continues unchallenged by concepts like "Heavens to Betsy, that is a really pointless thing to get judgemental about" and "this has got bugger all to do with the public interest, let's go investigate tax loop holes for Billionaire’s instead."
Expectations of the Female
Buckle your seatbelts, folks! I have some bones to pick. Today, I am going to speak about modern women and the new standards that have somehow been set. I am 21 years old. I was born in 1997. I'm not old. But I'm also not super young. A lot of women in my generation have gone on and on about fighting for women to be able to be independent, work, go to college, and depend only on themselves.
100 Things Every Girl Should Know
The other day, I went for a walk with my daughter and we wound up in my friend's garage, just talking with a couple people. This friend had never met her before and immediately pointed out that she looks nothing like me. I wasn't offended—she doesn't. Aside from her bright red hair, we look nothing alike. He then commented that she might not look like me but maybe she would act like me. My immediate reaction was to say, "I hope not!" But he looked at me and shook his head and said it wouldn't be a bad thing if she did. Thanks for that. I started to think about it and I realized, he's right. It wouldn't be a bad thing if she turned out like me. But there's a couple things I want her to know before she does. And a few things that every girl should keep in mind as she grows up:
To My Love, On Other Women
Darling, We are so busy. We both work six days a week to pay for this bungalow, and our cozy little life in it. There are things I often wish to tell you about, but I forget, for there is only time for “I love you” and “would you like me to make you coffee too?” As well as, “I am proud of you." All good things to be saying to one another, of course. Though, the extras sometimes get forgotten. So, I have written them here for you to read, perhaps on a smoke break, or on your day off, when and I am at work.