Most recently published stories in Viva.
Be the change you want to see in the world
There's an old story. An young woman used to cut the end of a lamb roast before she puts it in the oven. One day her husband asked her, "Honey, why did you cut the end of the lamb roast?" And she goes, "Well I don't know. I do it because that's what my mom used to do. Then his husband said, "Ok then call your mom. I want to know the reason." The woman called her mom and asked the same. But her mom didn't even know the answer. She replied, "I used to do it because that's what your grandmother did." After that they also called the granny. Granny came with the answer, "Well, in our times the oven was not so big as today. So cutting the end was an option to make it fit in the oven."
The Importance of Boundaries Around Diet & Body Image
Boundaries. A word that may sound scary and limiting, but when used properly in various areas of life can bring a sense of comfort and reassurance.
IUD Insertion Pain & Your Options
Over the last year (and likely even before that), there’s been more and more discussion around the insertion of IUDs for birth control and the surfacing of lived experiences. To the distress of many, it has not been positive.
Gender and Skill Controversy
It’s now 2021 and apparently, there are still people who think it’s the job of men to earn a living and women to take care of the household. Even these 2 things are included in important criteria for many people when choosing a life partner. Men see the criteria for a prospective wife who can take care of the house, children and take care of himself, while women look for someone who can provide for and protect them. I don’t blame those who have criteria like that but in my opinion, the criteria are too shallow to be used as the main criteria to choose a partner.
The Manic Pixie Dream Girl Might Be Here to Stay
She's the "one". The Manic Pixie Dream Girl. She'll be the one that got away. The one he thinks about years later when he's bored and disappointed with everything his life has become.
Period Care: Maybe You Shouldn't Put All Your Eggs In One Basket
Pads vs. Tampons vs. Menstrual cups vs. Period panties I've personally read, like, ten articles about these versus battles regarding the best choice for hygiene products during your menstrual cycle. My first product choice had been pads for the longest time. Back then, 12 years old and very put out about having to experience this "passage of womanhood" (bunch of bullshit then, certainly more so now), my arguments were more centered to which brand of pad worked better. Wings vs. no wings. Super heavy or regular. Yadda yadda- tampons are the DEVIL- yadda.
Don’t Fool Yourself Frequent Sex Won’t Stop Him From Cheating
When it comes to love and loyalty, do the two go hand in hand? According to experts, regular intimacy can reduce divorce rates and strengthen relationships.
Women Are Tired of Hearing Men Talk About Crypto. I’m Tired of Women’s Ignorance
I’ll be honest. I’ve always thought cryptocurrency was way too complicated for me. All the terminology terrified me — I mean, what the hell even is this Web3? Is it a new Dark Net, a place you can only access by plugging special technology into even more special technology just to start decoding secret messages?
Springle... The House
Brad Richardson was not crazy. He did not drink or smoke, so we knew he would not be around long. Brad was divorced and had three sons (I do not remember their names). His sons lived with him every summer (I guess that was the divorce arrangement). We never saw his ex-wife or heard anything about her from Brad. We knew she was white because that is all mom talked about...Brad Richardson and his mixed sons. Almost as if he had committed a crime by having children with a white woman. I hated when Brad had his sons. We were all thrown in together, because if you were kids, you should all get along. I was the only girl. The sons were always trying to kiss me or touch me. I could fight and was good at it; but trying to fight all three of them at once made it just about impossible to win. Stephen would just stand around and cry. No help there. I would tell mom what was happening, and she would say, "well you are going to have to get used to them, they may become your brothers." Or, "they are just being boys." Fuck! Why did my feelings never matter!?! Why did my safety never matter? It seemed as if I always had to fight alone. No help. No support. And, to make matters worse, I also had to watch out for Stephen (so much work!).
Women in Television are Getting Messier, and that's a Good Thing
I love a good antihero. If the success of shows like "Breaking Bad" is any indication, I'm not alone. We love to cheer on a flawed character. We find ourselves rooting for characters like Walter White, whose actions progress from illegal to downright immoral and evil, at times. We can empathize with a villain's backstory, and understand how they became who they are.
Falling out of Intimacy
One time my OBGYN prescribed me antidepressants. Her name was Tracey, and she had cutesy pins of uteruses on her white doctor’s coat. Do we have to hyper-femininize everything?
Chris Rock and Will Smith: Violence Was Only One Problem
It's fascinating how one short moment in time can mean so many different things. Here's one take away from the "incident" at the Academy Awards this year.