CAVE OF DESIRE

“Are you a woman who believes in trendsetting . Are you a wave-maker, a tradition- breaker and a world shaker. In a day of age when women are still fighting for equal pay for equal work , its easy to see how we might have trouble with our self- esteem. Afterall we are still shaking off the sides effects of hundreds of years of training to be seen but not heard , to serve but not be served . But thanks to modern feminism, women are again fighting back against “traditional” idea that a woman’s role is simply to be an-in home cook, personnel maid, smiling living room ornament- today we women, tackle work and play, motherhood and muscle , beauty and bossiness. Afterall , what better quality than bossiness is there for the accomplished bosses and leaders of the world .

This story is made of words that I didn’t come up , with from women who are far more successful, well known , and inspiring than I am . This is not self deprecation- I have my share of accomplishments- its just the fact . They’ve done a lot , they’ve become a lot . The more women whose words you and I can relate to, the less alone we will feel. This story is to encourage and uplift other women out there, and what a better way to do that, then to show you just how many women you can understand and connect with women that you haven’t even met . These women represent from all over the world, fighting for causes from wide spectrum, racking up a myriad of unprecedented achievements; and they are just like you - human beings who cried when they were born and worked hard everyday since that first tear to get where they ended up. I also want to share in this story that there’s no one right way to live your life. They are all wildly different, one of a kind individuals. You wont agree with all of them, the fact is that they all still notable, successful, and impressive individuals , each with something of her own to share. We can be all encouraged by their success while we strive for our own. They weren’t perfect; just as we aren’t perfect.... but they didn’t let that stop them . In fact , we all owned our own imperfections - afterall all imperfections helped to make us who we are & who we became . And these incredible women made all of their accomplishments, won all the awards, broke all their boundaries in a lot of different ways. They all started at the bottom. They took what they had; in some cases that really wasn’t much. But they used it to grow themselves into inspirations, whether that was what they always meant to do; or they got there completely by accident. And you know what? That’s exactly what you & me can do too——“ to be incredibly badass to the bone”

Lets talk about some of the qualities first that you think makes a badass woman. A badass woman stands up for herself, is confident and is not afraid to challenge the hierarchy, the patriarchy, or the conventional thinking . It is not about the physical appearance, its about being a grown up woman who has set out to change the world by being her best self and encouraging the same in others .

—Her appeal comes from being independent and strong . She doesn’t expect happiness to come to her , she is responsible for creating her own happiness and stand up for the things she believes in. She is a leader and people admire her and want to be like her.

— She is fearless, innovative , entrepreneurial and is inspiring a revolution. She pursues what she knows is right. She trusts her place in the world , because she knows that she can trust herself. No matter the situation, she will try to make the most of it because she knows that change is constant, life is precious, and nothing lasts forever.

— She knows how to be loved and how to give love , a love that is deep and glued together by mutual respect and admiration. She believes in the power of time . She is ambitious yet lives with the desire to let go of control to trust and follow a compass that points her in that direction of inspiration. She realizes that it is her quirks that make her shine and so she embraces them. The things that not everyone might love about her are some of the values she loves most about herself. She is unafraid of emotions and is fearless when comes to showing the world that she is human. She knows how to cry, how to love , how to feel lost , and likewise what it needs to be found . She fixates on the ways in which people are beautiful. She gets high off spreading inspiration, empathy , and encouragement. She is unafraid to be alone. Unafraid to walk into unknown. Unafraid to hold someone’s hand & let them join her. She has dreams so big that sometimes they scare her, yet she refuses to stop believing in them and she knows yours are just as attainable.

Do I consider myself a badass woman? .... honestly not all the time , but alot of the time!!. Im proud of what i have accomplished and very determined to be the best woman i can be as often as possible.

“ We all have badass boss in us- Let her out”.

Our job is to grab our sisters by the arms and bring them through those doors - so together we can rock the world .

—-How to stop doubting your greatness and start living an happy , excited, confident and independent woman. Grab those highlighters , a few colourful pen and any semblance of a can- do- attitude that you can scrounge up and start flipping pages. I kmow you’ve got this. You are ready to affirm yourself to victory.

Lets create a “Affirmation station” to help ourselves develop that badass attitude into our bones . - we all make mistakes, we all have bad habits, we all make bad choices; and that’s okay!! But if you want to continue learning and improving , it’s probably not a great idea to just keep doing the same thing you have been doing for years. Its time to try something new!!! This is where the affirmations comes in . Affirmations are positive statements that you make out loud, everyday, to help you shift your mindset in a positive and productive way. These statements can be about literally anything. For example, if you want to increase your self confidence everyday, you could say something like ; “my self confidence increases everyday. Or lets say if you had a bad breakup - And trying to shift your focus from dating life to your career - then you say to yourself i will focus on improving my job prospects, “or im completely focus on my work. “ its all about what changes you want to make- how you want to improve your mindset and ultimately your life .

Now, one of the main benefits of affirmations is that they help you to change how you think. - over time. If you commit to taking 5 mintues of your morning to stand in front of the mirror, look yourself in the eye and tell yourself that you are beautiful, capable person who will achieve all she is working for, you will find that after a couple of weeks , you are actually starting to believe yourself. You will start to notice all the small steps you are making towards your big goals- that you are capable of anything you set your mind to .

Affirmations aren’t magical spells. You can’t say that you are going to advance in your career and sit in your chair staring at a blank computer screen everyday- you have to work your ass off and take advantage of the chance opportunities that come around . You cant just tell yourself that youre going to love your family members better and then proceed to ignore them everytime they come near you - you have to actually listen when they talk and respond patiently and kindly. What im saying is , if you dont follow up on your affirmations, not much in life will really change . “EMPTY WORDS ARE USELESS”; therefore affirmations are the first step to a better morning, to an improved mindset- to you that you actually like to be around .

Here are some of the powerful affirmations . Now some of these affirmations will resonate with you and some will not . Apply the ones that did .

Im confident, im strong , im powerful

Im happy and excited to be Independent

Im capable, im a leader, I go after what i want

I’m successful, im worthy, I respect myself

Im beautiful, im attractive, i love myself

I will succeed , i beleive in my self

I achieve whatever and become anything that i put in my mind to .

I see failure as a golden opportunity to learn

I love the creative energy that flows through me .

I have a healthy body, tranquil mind & vibrant soul.

I don’t entertain negativity in any shape or form . “I simply let it go”

I fight for myself

I create my own happiness

I rise above hardships

I take care of myself

I beleive in my dreams and i wont put stop until they become real.

Im capable of making positive changes .

The Art of Self Affirmations: How to put these affirmations in use - randomly open a quote, and let these words by your guiding thoughts of the day !! If you really resonating to this power thought , keep using it everyday and let it become your “MANTRA”. Use this inspired ideas in speeches , on your bulletin board in your email signature, in your twitter handle, or your social media . Hey, if it is your favourite ever big thought, get a tattoo on your inner wrist where you see it all the time and are reminded of your personel worth and of a great big , beautiful world that we live in. Read a few and Really “powerup” for your day- sort of like a booster shot in a word form. If you are gettng ready to do a presentation , a sales pitch , an interview for your dream job , your next YouTube recording, or any very important date, this affirmation can be the “wind in your sails”.

“ALWAYS REMEMBER THIS ; YOU HAVE TO THINK HAPPY TO BE HAPPY”

Let us all dedicate to empower each other to take charge of our own destinies and bringing them to a state of joyful inclusiveness so that the “possibility” that we are does not pass by generation.

What we looking for is not out there . It is in you . Our joy , Our misery, Our love , Our agony , Our bliss, lie in our hands . There is a way out , And the only way out is “IN”. It is only by turning inward that we can truly create a world of love , light & laughter .

My final words to all my beautiful sisters —-

If you want to experience the mountain peak, you simply need to elevate yourself to that level. If you become valley , you hold the entire mountain in your lap. “Lets make it happen for ourselves”