To-Do

2/14/87

• buy flowers (daisies? she likes daisies)

• buy new comb

• buy chocolates (the good kind)

• make Valentine’s Day card- homemade!

• tell her that you love her

2/15/87

• go to the bank and see how much you can afford

• go to the ring store (Tiffany’s? Jared?)

• go to her dad’s house

• tell her that you love her

3/6/88

• buy baby formula

• go grocery shopping, buy lots of bananas for baby G

• call Eric to help assemble crib

• tell them that you love them

7/4/88

• get baby vomit off of cashmere sweaters

• buy new cashmere sweaters

• tell them that you love them

9/3/91

• contact real estate agent

• ask Eric if he can help with the move-in

• buy Eric beer

• ask Eric if he can help assemble the twin bed

• tell them that you love them (including Eric)

8/4/93

• bring her to the doctor

• buy expensive chocolates

• research breast cancer

• go to G’s soccer game (don’t tell her about her mom)

• tell that you love them

9/5/93

• pick G up from soccer early

• visit the hospital

• buy daisies (she still likes daisies, right?)

• don’t cry

• tell G to clean her room

• tell them that you love them

9/31/93

• visit her in the hospital

• force G to clean her room

• buy daisies (she definitely still likes daisies)

• pay medical bills

• go to church

• don’t cry

• tell them that you love them

10/3/93

• go to church

• pray

• visit the hospital

• don’t cry

• tell them that you love them

10/4/93

• cry

10/9/93

• make funeral arrangements

• talk to G about why she doesn’t want to plays soccer anymore

• don’t cry

10/10/93

• buy a diary

• talk to G about why she won’t come out of her room

• visit therapist

• don’t cry

12/11/94

• stop ignoring Eric

• tell G to get out of her room

• visit therapist

• buy G new shin guards

• don’t cry

• tell G you love her

1/5/95

• bring G to the soccer game

• buy her new cleats

• don’t cry

• tell G you love her

2/3/97

• ash therapist how to deal with being a single dad

• buy school clothes for G

• don’t cry

• tell G you love her

7/7/01

• buy new school clothes for G

• meet Eric for beer

• ask therapist if it will ever get any easier

• don’t cry

• tell G you love her

9/5/03

• visit her grave

• bring G to the soccer game

• visit therapist

• drop G off at her boyfriend’s house

• don’t cry

• tell G you love her

10/6/05

• go to graduation

• buy college dorm stuff before the end of this week

• don’t cry

• tell G that you’re going to be ok.

• tell G that you love her. so much.

10/3/06

• call G and ask how she’s doing

• cancel therapist

• online dating websites

• help Eric assemble his crib

• visit her grave

• tell them that you love them.

2/14/08

• buy flowers (roses? she likes roses)

• buy new comb

• buy chocolates (the good kind)

• Valentine’s Day card- homemade!

• tell her that you love her.