If I told you I was born this way
would you believe me?
Or
would it cross your mind
to take the time
to make the argument of
nature
vs
nurture?
It's a thing.
I mean, who's really born anything?
I guess we are all products of our cultures creation...
I remember when I was 14
My dad said to me:
"I don't have a problem with homosexuality
I just think it's a product of a society.
It's learnt,
none of us are born that way"
The problem is,
I think part of me believe him
or can at least see where he is coming from.
For example,
if I had never been told that "Straight" was a thing
if society had not nurtured my mind
to be defined
by hetero-normative naratives
and designs
would I still doubt myself every time I'm attracted
to anyone who isn't a CIS man?
If Disney had never introduced me to Prince Charming
would I have spent so much of my life looking for him?
Judging others in his image
"OHHH That chiselled chin!" *swoon*
If the Gay and Lesbian community in my teens
hadn't taught me that bisexual girls
were just using other women
to get attention
would I have been louder?
Less afraid of being seen?
Would Imposter Syndrome even have been a thing?
If we had not been encoded
with a binary program
where each man was a 1
and each woman was a 0
would others still look confused
when I said I loved people
not bodies?
Hearts
not genders?
Would they still ask me
"Man OR woman?"
As if that was the only option.
As if its even about options.
As if we are choosing sides on a sports team.
I don't choose sides,
I choose people.
You see
It's all subjective
and when I am retrospective and reflective
I begin to get perspective.
For example
if I had never heard the word "Queer"
would I have spent my life in fear of being slightly the wrong shade
of normal?
If I also hadn't been fed a story
to be proud of who I am
I probably wouldn't be standing here today.
You see my dad did also say
"You should fight for what you believe in"
and that I should believe in myself;
and who am I to judge a man plagued by contradictions
when that's all this world has taught me too?
So I say to my daughter
when an older boy snatches a toy from her hand
and she is left wondering what went wrong,
angry at the perpetrator,
I say
"Baby, we're all still learning".
So when asked if I was born this was
if it's nature or nurture
I say
"Well, it is my nature to be nurtured
and all of us are made
by a society that says we're wrong
how ever we were when we came;
and me?
I'm learning to love myself
the best way I know how.
And I'm full of faults and contradictions,
queer quirks and weird infliction's,
brave moves and coded systems,
half step beats and broken rhythms;
and no
I wasn't born this way.
But there's one thing I will tell you
I do love
how well I've been made.
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