Flipside of Accommodating

"I'd rather be sad with you

than be happy and seeing you sad".

We talk about accommodating

but if in so doing, your partner is happy

while you are crying inside

That is not the kind of accommodating we advocate.

To accommodate your partner's needs

Doesn't mean sacrificing your own happiness.

You should talk it over and exhaust all options

To come up with a sustainable solutions.

Don't be afraid to show your vulnerability

Own it, say it and admit that you are hurt and felt uneasy.

The issue may not be resolved right away

It may take days, mind you it's not easy.

But don't leave it too long

You don't want the agony to prolong

It is hard, but it's worth the pain and the bruises

And all the negative and not so fun emotions it evokes

It makes the relationship stronger

And deepens your love for one another.

Remember, after every storm there is

A bright, calm and sunny day follows.