Do not love you, do not bother

01.

Miyazaki said: "If you like a person, you take the initiative to walk more steps towards her. If she sees you coming, but not to meet you, then you stop, because you have to understand that many things can be obtained by effort, but not love."

Love, really can not be forced to come. Even if you love him to the extreme, he has no feelings for you, or he has changed his mind, then, you pay all just touched themselves, in his case meaningless, worthless.

A good love must be two love, two-way run, who do not have to cater to, do not have to be humble. The fact is that this kind of love is not available to everyone, otherwise, there will not be so many people who are trapped by love and hurt by love.

A reader left me a message: "It is said that men chase women across the mountain, women chase men across the veil, but I have done so much for him, he still does not like me?"

Girls always have some sense of superiority in their feelings, thinking that as long as they take the initiative, they will be able to chase their favorite person. This blind self-confidence will make them deeply frustrated once they are hit.

Love someone needs courage, not only the courage to chase but also the courage to face failure. After all, feelings speak of fate, some people are not destined to belong to you.

02.

The greatest luck in life is that the person you love happens to love you too. You take ten steps towards him, he takes fifty steps towards you, the happiness of being loved, enough to melt the whole heart.

On the contrary, the greatest pain in life is that no matter how much you give, the person you love still does not want to take a look, and even feels that everything you do is a disturbance to him.

It is really bad to be hated by someone you like, but because love is too deep, they choose to endure, even if the other party repeatedly rejected, repeatedly said harsh words, but also pretends to be indifferent to continue to pester.

Just like a friend, once wishful thinking like a boy next door, every day to find excuses to go to his house, pestering him to ask all kinds of questions, at first he was okay with her, treating her like a sister until she took the initiative to confess to him, he realized that she misunderstood.

He said clearly that he did not like her, he had someone he liked. But she refused to give up and pestered him as she always had, if ever.

She thought that the sincerity of the gold stone for open, as long as she persisted long enough, pay enough, one day he will see her good, and thus like her, accept her.

However, her persistence did not exchange for his touch, but let him more and more hate her.

Later, he and his favorite person together, she was devastated, and discouraged, with a long time to slowly come out.

There is nothing wrong with loving someone, and there is nothing wrong with not loving someone. If the person you love does not love you, then let him go, and let yourself go. You have to believe that the landscape that belongs to you is not far ahead.

03.

If you love someone too much, you will become very humble. Even if the other party does not love them, hate them, but also does not want to let go. Always think that they did not do well, not enough, to impress him.

The truth is, people who do not love you, no matter how well you do, and more, he feels is superfluous, are intrusive.

Some lovers break up, one has long been put down, one is still immersed in the past, a dwelling, to each other cause trouble, and even affect each other's lives. In fact, why bother? To a person who does not love you, again and again, to lower themselves, trample themselves, in addition to full of scars, and can get somewhat?

A person, who can not live without dignity, especially in feelings, must have pride. That low to the dust of love, and can not blossom, will only be despised, trampled on.

So, do not love your people, do not bother. Even if he is good and excellent, he does not like you, does not love you, then, his good, his excellent has nothing to do with you.

Don't be naive to think that you can move him. Touching this is not love, at best, pity.

Remember, never love a person, live even if you hate the look. For people who do not love you, let go as soon as possible, do not bother. This is a kind of spontaneity, but also a kind of wisdom.