After a Narcissist
Life after Domestic Violence
The glow still hangs about you when he walks in...
He sees it and your shoulders tense
You swallow a bit and force yourself to stand straight and not slump
Or slump and not stand straight whichever position matches the mood
He's in.
You once told yourself
How you’d never be in a violent relationship
That nothing or no one could ever make you remain in a violent situation
That no man or anyone was worth the ugliness of tolerating violence
And then he tricked you
They tricked you
And u learned that violent men
Have violent people
So safety becomes a little trickier
You
them
align your survival chances on him
What if he heard your thoughts
what if she told him on you
the worries never end
real woes become imagined and
imagined ones become real
When he comes at you this time you can feel the violence
emanating from him
and all thoughts of happiness
or your girlfriend
are voided as you grit your teeth
and strengthen your determination to live
Right as he hits you
all your will is centered to survive and
the next day
everyone is leering unspoken questions hanging in their eyes
why do you stay with him
and you want to yell
as if you don't know
I have no other options
So in this fashion years may pass
When you finally get away
All of the friends you thought you had
Are not your friends
All the people that you once thought you knew
Are down with him, down with abuse, or influenced by him
You are lucky to have escaped with your life
In another town
And other places
He tracks you
He grows
And others like him feel entitled to run you
own you
And you begin to think perhaps
I should have made it work
Because all the others in your world look at you
Like you should just give up
give in
and deny your life
Its whole work and hopes
Because he has made it so hard on you
So hard on them
And after all
Who are you
To survive and exist and have a new life without him
His thoughts and wishes color everything around you
Everything you come into contact with
And poison all of your chances for happiness and success
No matter how hard you work
Or good you are
or at it
Or successful
Everything in your life
Is touched by him
Owned by him
And destroyed by him
Why?
Because your existence and happiness
Does not feed him
Why?
Because he can
Because hes adept at manipulation
situations, people, places and things
Why?
Because your existence as a separate being with thoughts and a plan hurts his ego
bruises his fragile lack of actual confidence
And leaves him feeling out of control of something
That something beautiful and strong and fragile and talented in this world
Isn't derived from him
Isn't controlled by her
Because not all girls are your friends
And quite frankly at this point
They are probably all his.
Eventually you come to a point in life
Where only the factors above influence matter to you
Into this point
A place of freedom is born
A place to heal
To mend
To create
A place where his ego
And its wants
Lose priority
Because no matter how big the manipulations
Or how grand the manipulator
There is always something bigger
better
And eventually if all other sanctity fails
The sanctity of this
his inability to accept the other world
The one where his ego
Isn't the all consuming mania
Isn't absolute override
The one where other people matter
Well the other world exists
About the Creator
Melissa Eaves
I am an freelance writer. I love the written word and the poetry of my soul is expressed by mastery of it.
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