What to do

I don't know if any of you have the perfect life, you know... the one where you have the spouse to come home to, the college degree, the job you've always wanted. Which is great! Don't get me wrong, it is because of people like you, that make other people aspire to be something in this big gigantic world.

But maybe, just maybe, the person reading this right now, is like me; stuck in life. All of your friends are in successful relationships and/or already married. Your "friends" promotions being advertised, like they won the lottery, on Facebook. Another person from your high school, has graduated from college! Yay. For them. You congratulate them, even thought you haven't talked to them in at least over two years...if not more. And you just sit there looking down at your phone or laptop soaking up all of their happiness while you do nothing, nothing but wish you knew where and what you wanted to be in life. Yeah, maybe you are like me.

But you can do something about it. It took me a while to realize that I was doing more damage to myself, by choosing to not explore my options in life. That's right! For the people who feel stuck, there are so so so many options to explore in life.

You could go to college, if that is what you want to explore. Although, I would do a community college. Because lets face it, we all are unsure of ourselves and what we want to do in life. Thats the point! Explore the different classes that grab your attention on the multiple lists they hand you. Maybe you might find something that interests you? Who knows!

If college doesn't do it for you, like it does for me, then look up camps or little courses at your local community center. You would be surprised how many are offered. You might think, "Oh, I am too old for that." Think again my friends, because there are groups for all sorts of ages, even for different genders!

Another person in the back, might be thinking "great, but what about a job? Money is something we all need." That is a very good point! Go get a job, *shrugs shoulders* But not just any job, not even the one that you think you would be good at. Look for the job that looks like the most fun to you.

Like I said, there are a lot of different options in life, that is just a few things you can learn. Hell, you can even explore your sexuality if you wanted to! Go to a LGBT march, kiss a few frogs as my mother would say. Protest something you are passionate about, whether it be about Politics, Women's Rights, Black Lives Matter, All Lives Matter- whatever it is that you feel is important in your life, do it.

But speaking about kissing, forget about your friends' relationships, be happy enough to support them and show up. But also create boundaries. It is okay to be honest with them and say, "Hey, I am really happy for you, but right now I don't want to talk about your love life, or about how great it is going. Honestly, it makes me a little sad to think about how I don't have something like that right now." And maybe they will understand, because friendship is about honesty, and if they can't accept that, then maybe they aren't that great of a friend.

Also, you are your own person, your friends might have these awesome things going on right now, but that does not mean that you are supposed to follow in their exact footsteps. That is why it is called your life, you are following your path, not their path. So what if you get married at 35 instead of 23? So what if you don't get that degree in nursing or law, or even graduate for that matter! They might be on the path that is perfect for them, or maybe they are feeling just as stuck as you and you just don't realize it. But, as long as you stick to your path, whenever you find what it is, whatever it may be, you'll be perfect too.

And remember, you should be looking for your options throughout your life, because there are so so many, and who knows? Maybe one of them will help you feel unstuck.

Live life as if you won't run out of options. Because I guarantee that you wont.