What doesn't defeat you makes you stronger

01

Yonghui is a former colleague of mine who recently left his job to open a theme restaurant. A few days ago, I was a little surprised to see him post on his WeChat moments that the new store was busy and busy. The day before Ming Ming, he also told me that because the food is not distinctive enough, the location is not busy, and the business is a little quiet, it is estimated that this month even breaks even more difficult.

"How YOUR FRIEND CIRCLE HAIR, WITH YOU AND I SAY DIFFERENT?" I wechat him.

Yonghui got back to me soon. His parents are also his WeChat friends, he said. No matter how difficult the business was, he didn't want his parents to worry. And he's already working on a menu that he hopes will improve soon.

"Is it a sign of growth to report good news without bad news?" Yonghui asked me.

I was more surprised, in my impression, Yonghui has been mature, capable, resolute, works in a fiery manner, considers the problem to be careful and thoughtful, do not lose humility, so people are very good. Such a person, still need to grow up?

That's when Yonghui told me his story. Five spring years ago, at age 28, he was almost penniless after a bad investment. Many people pointed out that he was not cut out for business. The marriage went sour soon after, and on the day he and his wife finalized their divorce, he spent the afternoon counting floor tiles on the sidewalk under a plane tree.

He thought about his life. At 16, he failed the middle school entrance examination, at 19, he failed the college entrance examination, at 22, he broke up with his first girlfriend, at 28, he failed in investment, and then ended the marriage that he thought would last forever... So many disappointments, let him fear very frustrated. So he decided to run away.

She left her under-3-year-old son with her 70-year-old grandparents and fled to another city to take a job as an administrative assistant, often working late into the night before returning to her humble rental home.

Tired, he is not afraid; Bitter, he is not afraid. The only thing he dared not do was confront. In the face of the wind and rain of life, in the face of life's ups and downs, in the face of can not refuse the growth and can not shirk the responsibility.

02

In age, in their 20 s and 30 s, wayward age, is not can let a person can never fai said, probably because the previous, character in the shadow of inferiority, his heart lonely and weak, see a problem very negative, dependent psychology is extremely heavy, seems to feel that something is still not mature enough to support, so the difficulty for the first response is to hide.

The days he spent hiding in another city as an administrative assistant were filled with anxiety, depression, and nightmares. Although busy during the day back ache, the night will still be insomnia. He often sat by the window looking at the sky, had hair all night stay, or play games all night, feeling lost, like the blurred wind, like the horizon of random clouds fluttering.

It was his birthday and he got a call from his dad. The old man said, "We don't want you to earn much money, only hope you are healthy and safe, grow into a knife and knife immediately."

"Qingdao immediately" four words, let his tears. He packed his bags and returned home a few days later.

When he returned home, his life was very difficult. He had to shoulder the responsibility of being a son and taking care of his parents. Side to play a good father's role, get up early to send children to kindergarten, cool the children added clothes; Working several jobs to make ends meet; In the evening, he taught himself junior college courses.

During that time, he handed out advertisements on the street and was often rejected and ignored. He delivered a package, no matter how cold it was outside, and rode out on an electric bike. Once, a customer lived in the middle of nowhere. He got lost. When he found the family and delivered the package, he found it was raining heavily and there was no street light. He rode carefully, and finally fell into the water with his bike...

03

Yonghui said that the difficult time was not only physical torture but also a spiritual transformation. It is a difficult and even painful process to go from being a person who is used to relying on and avoiding to being responsible for yourself and protecting your family. But you know that there are always some difficult situations that you need to face alone. It is not that you hide and things will get better. Growth, after all, is you can't refuse.

I asked Yonghui, what is growth.

He said, growth experiences, you have to go a long way, to be exposed to the wind and rain; Growth is feeling, and those bumps are not in vain. Just like making pasta, we should work hard to knead the dough, but also wake up the dough, add baking powder, and let time to brew, to work. Then you will find that all the hardships and hardships you have gone through turn into your life and make you stronger.

I also asked him, "Hengdao immediately" is what?

'Imagine a powerful man riding across the road with a sword in his hand, daring to stand in his opponent's way,' he said. It is a kind of decisive and fortitude, in the face of setbacks or not ideal state, think not to shrink back and escape, but to confront difficulties, and dare to challenge opponents. It is also a kind of maturity and wisdom, which is to see the cause and effect of events and can be indifferent to the attitude of life.

Therefore, I understand that Yonghui is still striving toward his life goal of "Hengdao immediately". Although he has not reached it yet, he is not the one he was 5 years ago.

Everyone will inevitably have a weak time, those who seem to be strong, but more than we know how to turn weakness into motivation. Those failures, those injuries, those grievances, and those suffering, can disturb our mood and can suffer our body, but after all, our efforts, can not erase our persistence, more can not take away our belief that we want to change. It's true, what doesn't beat you makes you stronger!

So, since growth can not refuse, when the wind and rain come, afraid of what? Welcome to it!