Think Twice

If that was me, I would have done this. If that was me, I would have done that. So many times, we say that about situations. But you shouldn’t talk about things that you don’t know about because you don’t what may have happened. Looks can be deceiving or things may not be the way we think they are.

For instance, we see a person on the street that’s homeless. Our first instinct is its their fault. They need to go get a job. They shouldn’t be on the side of the road. But turn the tables. What if it was us on the side of the road instead? What if other people thought the same thing about us? Said the same thing about us? Never judge them because you can be on the receiving end at any time.

At one point in that person’s life, they could have been very successful. Top leader in the company. CEO, supervisor, manager. They may have been fired or laid off. They may be mentally ill and their family has put them out. But I will say 75% of the time, these people are looking for handouts. These people know that there are homeless shelters and soup kitchens for hot meals or in some cases a combination of both. I'm a compassionate person but I dont like to see people use other people for their personal gain.

I would have done this. I wouldn’t put up with that. What am I referring to? Domestic violence. There are so many people that will open their mouth and say what they would or wouldn’t do. You do not know until it happens to you. It happens to men as well but they may not report it. Its difficult. The victim tries hard not to upset their aggressor. Constant apologies. Some live to tell the story. Others don’t. It’s a rough thing to go through. People don’t know what goes on behind closed doors, except the two people that are in the situation.

I wouldn’t put up with that also occurs when it comes to finding a soulmate. What is this deal about finding a person with a house, car or job or finding a person in the church? I don’t understand. Having a house, a car and job have nothing to do with it. That person can have all three and still be the biggest, most low down, person there is, waiting for somebody to come along that they can use. And being in church has nothing to do with it either. Anybody can come to church on Sunday, praise the Lord, shout amen, hallelujah and yell out, preach pastor. People put on a front very well.

You don’t know the story behind that person with the house, car and job. They can be a hard-working person or somebody can be keeping them up. Sounds crazy, right? Let me explain. Somebody can be paying their house payment and car payment even though they work. So, you see, a car, house and a job means what? Nothing. People don’t think like that though.

But you know something? That doesn’t impress me at all. Someone with a house, car and job may also be conceited. You date them, they promise you the world and before you know it, you may be living together, you may not. But, what may happen is, he/she may quit their job and depend on you to do everything. Uh oh. If I struck a nerve, my apologies.

A man doesn’t need to be rich. E for effort works for me. Not all men/women are conceited or want to depend on a man/ woman. I’m not saying that. I think sometimes we also have the habit of trying to fix or change people. None of us can do that. Its up to that person. But, if you have someone in your life, you should try to build together, not tear down. It doesn’t matter who starts the building. If the man is broke or the woman is broke, it doesn’t matter. Help each other instead of hurting one another.

To conclude I say this: Everyone has a different path in life. But its up to us to determine our destination.