The Deeper Meaning

People are quick to call a person their friend. But you have to be careful who you give that title to.

When a person is your true friend, you don’t have to worry about them. They have your back, through the thick and thin and as they say “will give you the shirt off their back.” That’s a saying but there are some friends that will really do it. A true friend will defend your name and will not talk about your behind your back.

But, we have those so-called friends. These people say that they are your friend. They get close to you, learn everything about you. You trust them because you think that they care about you. But then, you learn different. They put your business in the street, tell lies on you, to you and about you. This person hurts you so bad to your heart and afterwards, you hate to see them coming and the sound of their name makes your blood boil.

It only takes one person to damage your reputation. Once they do, you feel like it’s a done deal. But its not. It may take a while to clear your name, but its possible. You just have to put in the time and effort to do it. Anything worth having is worth fighting for. Having a good name is worth fighting for.

We trust people very easily. Its because we want to be accepted. There’s nothing wrong with that. It’s human nature to want acceptance. But once you lose trust in a person, its nearly impossible to get it back. Why? Because you feel that the person will do the same thing to you again and it’s always in the back of your mind that it will happen again.

In a relationship or a marriage, friendship standards should be established. Every man and every woman is entitled to have friends. If you and a woman are solid in a relationship, the people you consider your friends shouldn’t be able to come in and break up the relationship. There should be no he-say, she-say and nobody should be sleeping with each other’s friends.

People cause problems like that because they have nothing else better to do. They feel that since they are miserable, they want everyone else to feel the same way that they do, whether they are single or not. Well news flash, if your relationship is not going the way you want it to, then get out of it. Stop trying to make everyone else suffer because you are unhappy. People need to stop holding on to people that are making them miserable. I refuse to do it. Anything that is hurting you is something you need to let go of. I know its not that simple but all things take time.

So before you go calling everybody your friend and trusting people, do a self-examination. Look at the qualities that you want in a friend. If the people that you have in your life do not match these qualities, you need to re-evaluate that list. I know that sounds mean but it’s the truth. Nobody is perfect but be careful with that word “friend.” People have gotten hurt behind that word and have also lost their lives.

Everyone makes mistakes. We have all trusted the wrong person or people at some point in our lives. It happens. Don’t be ashamed about it.

In closing, I want to say this: True friends may not see each other all the time or talk every day. But friends should not be like leaves, changing directions when the wind blows (calling when its convenient for them).