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The Concept Of "Deserving"

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By Harold SconiersPublished 5 years ago 6 min read
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A lot of people don’t believe that they “Deserve” to be wealthy. But this is simply not true. And, if you have this block, then I’d like to clear it up right now.

If you go outside and look around, you’ll see different animals, birds, and insects, all acting in alignment with their own natures. Now, consider these things.

  • A honeybee doesn’t concern itself with whether or not it “Deserves” to collect pollen.
  • The hawk never justifies its desire to soar high.
  • A squirrel never concerns itself with being “Worthy” of the peanut.

You see, the creatures of nature are aligned with Mother Earth. They never try to prove themselves “Worthy” of anything, but simply access whatever is available in each moment.

So, when will you be “Worthy” of wealth, success, abundance, health, or whatever else you want?

The moment that you allow yourself to receive it.

That’s it. It really is that simple.

“Receiving” is the key to accessing abundance, not “Trying,” “Proving,” or even “Doing.”

Yes, of course, you must put forth some effort to achieve anything in life. But action, alone, isn’t enough to get what you want.

Because you will never allow yourself to achieve what you don’t feel deserving of in the first place. But, when you are completely open and ready to receive, then it becomes a lot easier to catch that passing opportunity.

Have you ever found yourself mentally rehearsing heated arguments with other people that haven’t happened yet and might never take place? We do this to prepare for a potential conflict in advance; trying to “Win” the fight before it ever begins.

But this is an exercise in futility; one that, ironically, keeps us in conflict, as the creators of it. How can you achieve peace by using the very mechanism that you wish to transcend or avoid?

It is not important to “Win,” but to speak “Truth.” The dissolution of conflict comes from helping those involved reaching a higher level of understanding, not by becoming more skilled at dominating someone else in conversation.

Standing in truth is important, fighting is not. How can anything good come from a battle, when you are always up against yourself?

See, there is no “Out There,” no “Other,” no “Opposition” to defeat. Only you, showing up in different forms and versions; some at odd with the others.

The self-defeating beliefs that are stored in our subconscious mind will always show up in the people and circumstances around us. As an Intuitive Counselor, I see these patterns play out all the time.

For example, someone might repeatedly get into relationships where they are undervalued, where they themselves don't feel important enough to speak out and be heard.

And what you often find going back is that, as a child, this person felt like there was nothing spectacular about him or her, nothing to make them stand out or be considered important.

Kids who have that experience often grow up believing that they don't really matter to others. But the goal in life is not for others to think that you are important. Instead, it's to stand in your own power, which ironically is the very definition of standing out.

Because you are a unique vessel of Life on this planet, with a special set of abilities and gifts. And anything that is one of a kind is valuable by its nature. It is what we would call an original, a marvel, or a masterpiece.

Seeking to be valued by others is a denial of your intrinsic worth; causing you to value yourself less, which of course means that others will do the same.

But, when you come from a mindset that you are “Worthy” at the core of your being, then others will soon mirror that new understanding.

This will be a brand-new experience of life; one that isn’t based on what happened in your youth.

Are you ashamed of anything that has happened in your past?

You know, growing up, most of us develop certain fears, insecurities, and damaging self-concepts. And these things are often pushed down and stored deep inside.

But, at some point in life, those distorted parts of our personalities will come up again to be healed. When this happens, many of us go through what’s known as “The Dark Night of the Soul.”

It’s when everything that you once believed in comes crashing down. And you’re left scrambling for a way to make sense of it all.

But it’s at these times that we are being invited into the next level of consciousness; into it a new state of being; one that transcends the old identity, or idea of “Self.”

But this transition period, for some, is very chaotic.

A person might go through depression, substance abuse, or engage in coping behaviors that are totally out of character. And, afterwards, once the dust has settled, we sometimes look back at the destruction caused and feel embarrassed at who we’ve been, what we’ve done, and we're ashamed of the fact that others have seen the worst of us.

But this only happens because the old fears in your mind are still trying to stay active. The shame is nothing more than a set of limiting beliefs and insecurities from your past, that are looking for an opportunity to rise again.

They may speak up and say,

“You were no good from the beginning. You’ve always been a loser and, now, everyone knows it. People have seen who you really are, and it’s not good.”

But, in truth, you were only able to show people the script that you had been given; one that others have been writing on since before your birth.

You see, when we come into this world, people pass over to us a list of ideas, that begin to define who we are, what we can do, what is or isn’t possible. And, in truth, most of these assumptions about life were handed down to those who cared for you by others, many years ago.

But, anyway, we begin to create our individual worlds from the options on that list, never realizing that our ability to decide has been framed, restricted, reduced to just a few possibilities.

Now, some of us eventually go through one or more experiences that cause us to stop, unplug from the program, and start looking at the world in a new way.

We begin to reevaluate our choices, re-examine the realities that we have been given, and realize, at some point, that those boundaries; the ones that define us, don’t really exist at all.

We begin to challenge our earlier decisions and see that they were never our own. We, then, might end up feeling lost, empty and incomplete, without knowing how to make it all better.

This is the first stage of an awakening process. But, very often, it isn’t pretty. The identity fights like hell to stay put and others might see us going through that struggle.

But any judgments that they may make are irrelevant to your reality. Because you are acting on your own stage, as are they.

Others may come and go to fill out scene, but you are the star of your own life. Who is, interestingly enough, playing for an audience of only one.

This is the story of “Your Life.” You are the writer, director, producer and main character all in one. There are always challenges and turning points that help shape the hero or heroine of any tale.

But you’ve gone through the hard part and have done all the work. Now, it’s time to create the role that you would love to play.

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