One of the greatest hurdles we will ever have to overcome in life is our own mind. The mind is a powerful tool that has the capability to literally make or break us. But it's less about our own thinking and more about our perception of how others will receive our thoughts and ideas. How many times have you given up on an idea or not said something because you were worried about how others might receive and react to it? If you're anything like me this happens all the time. And why is that? Why do we care so much about what other people think about us? In my opinion, it comes down to our constant need to feel included within a group. We all want to feel like we belong to something or someone and often times that prevents us from becoming who we're meant to be.
We're told all throughout our childhood that we can be whatever we want to be. That we should be creative and do whatever makes us happy. But as we get older it seems that that door slowly gets shut on us. That we fall into this black and white system that is society. We give up on our dreams in order to pursue a "normal" life. We take a job we don't like and we tell ourselves that it's going to be temporary and then we look back forty years later and we're still doing the same old thing. And those dreams we grew up with now seem like far distant memories that will never come to fruition. This is all because we wanted so desperately to fit in with our peers that we sacrificed what we love and settled for what other people told us we should love.
So, what's the problem? The problem is we care too much. More often than not we value what other people think about us over what we think about us. That is a big problem.
Think about this. If you're finding yourself having to change for someone else do you really think that's a person you want to be around? I'm not saying that we all have to be alike and do the same things but what I am saying is if you can't at the very least respect who I am and me respect you for who you are then what's the point? Why try and fake who you are for someone else or vice versa? That just seems like such a fake and depressing way to go through life. And the sad thing is that we all probably do this much more often than we think we do.
Instead of trying to fake it to make it within a group be yourself and see who you attract that way. Don't be afraid to do the things you do and act the ways you act even if you come off as weird to a lot of people.
Learn to stop caring. There's a big difference between saying that and doing that and it's hard. It's not easy and it won't happen overnight. I've been trying to get better at this for years and I'm still dealing with my own insecurities every day and I accept the fact that I probably won't ever perfect this during my lifetime. But you know what? It's all apart of the journey. And what I've noticed about what happens when I just let loose and be myself is that I attract exactly the type of people that I want to attract in the first place.
Be yourself, stop caring about what other people say about you, and enjoy this journey. Life is too short to not go after what you love.
Get After It.