Start Bullying Yourself To Become Successful

Ever since my second article titled “Why you should learn to embrace your loneliness for a better life!” became a hit on this platform, atleast for a new writer like me, the feedbacks on the work had been overwhelmingly positive. Amidst many such positive responses, I was keenly searching for a pragmatic comment which expressed disagreement from what the majority of readers were saying. Finally, I found one such which said that embracing your loneliness cannot prove as a space for success, and that it is a mere act of punishing oneself in order to cope up with your existing lack of an elaborate social life.

Upon recieving feedbacks on my articles, I usually try and send a reply of acknowledgement. However, for this one particular comment, I just clicked the clap button twice, but did not comment. Comments matter a lot to me as they help me improve my articles, to know the pulse of the readers, to put myself in their shoes in order to understand different perspectives. So this comment got me thinking…

I reflected a lot on it and came to the conclusion that segregating myself from reaping the entertainment of a social circle may seem punishing, but it does help in prompting me take actions for success. Maybe punishing oneself isn’t a bad idea, in fact, it can be your greatest push for improvement!

As sadistic as it sounds, let me give you some reasons why it is important to bully yourself for your own success:

You are the better critic of yourself

Few years ago, when I just started college, I happened to stumble upon a YouTube video of Jack Ma, the former chairman of Alibaba Group, a global technology conglomerate. In a press meeting, he was talking about the time when he had just graduated university, and was applying for jobs. He got rejected by every single one of the employers, sometimes over ridiculous reasons like him having a large head!

The depressed Ma, instead of cussing at his incoming failures, did a reality check upon himself. He realized that he wasn’t exactly the smartest of the lot, neither was he handsome nor multi-talented. In simple words, he wasn’t something that the job market of his times had desired. He went on to say towards the end of the video, that only after he tried to accept and improve his drawbacks, did he end up successful.

Whether you accept it or not, life isn’t meant to be fair! Some people may be more desirable in the eyes of the world than others. Therefore, it is important to be your own judge; in order to analyze your own drawbacks, to work hard on improving your own shortcomings, and to change the course of your own destiny by placing yourself in a path that fits your skillset.

People often have a sense of self entitlement towards being accepted by the unfair world, no matter what. It ruins their self-esteem. Trust me, nobody knows you better than yourself... So it is important to be the best critic of yourself. Bully your psyche to accept the person that you are, the strengths you have, and also the weaknesses you have, in order to play the game the way it is meant to be played!

Scold yourself for your own mistakes

This is one of the most common sadistic strategy that successful people implement, so as to keep themselves from falling off the top to hit rock bottom. It is simple: Start owning up to the mistake that you made, be it your job, or personal life. Scold yourself for it, if you are convinced that you are the main reason for it to happen in the first place!

Like I said, you know yourself better than anyone else. It is important to take some time to reflect upon your mistake. First thing that you need to do after that, is to clearly remind yourself of your own role in it. That means, for a while you need to stop contemplating on someone else’s contribution to the situation. After that you need to scold yourself left, right, and centre about your fault. Push yourself to remember the consequences of repeating the same mistake in the future. This fear will keep you more alert when dealing with similar situations again!

Only after punishing yourself should you consider others’ role in the scenario. Analyze how you could’ve taken control of the situation, to stop the trouble beforehand. Now ask yourself how much this person means to you, and how much this mistake costed you. After this bitter act of confession, sternly tell yourself on how important it is to mend the ties with/cut yourself off from this person, and to own up to fix the mess…

And absolutely no excuses for not making it big

Now that I did mention on how life can be unfair, so it is best to fit yourself into where you belong, based on what your strengths and weaknesses are. But by no means it comes off as an excuse to slack your way into a life of mediocrity!!! You need to mercilessly push yourself to be extremely successful in life. That is to yell at oneself to “go big or go home”…

It is extremely important I believe, to slap yourself on the face with harsh words, if you are just being lazy by not doing enough as a result of undermining your abilities. Reminding yourself of the consequences of your present sluggishness is the prime way to make your mind alert in order to motivate yourself. And if this doesn’t push your senses hard enough, force yourself to take a peek at others enjoying the fruits of their hard work, to ignite the feeling of shame in you. Constantly remind yourself on how you could have experienced the same merit, had you put in the right effort, at the right time. This will create several emotions in your mind like jealousy, embarrassment, and the fear of missing out, which when harnessed, can be some of the great catalysts for victory!

As I now intend to conclude my article, I am well aware of the controversial nature that this strategy holds. I am expecting mixed reactions from the readers on this matter. Some strategies that hold success may not be acceptable in the view of the majority, but should never be suppressed from open discussion. Therefore, if you have read this article, I would like you to take time to comment your thoughts about it. They mean a lot in bettering my content. This quote will best sum up the whole write-up:

“Push yourself because, no one else is going to do it for you!”