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Practice Oneself

Life is a practice

By Richard ZhongPublished 2 years ago 7 min read
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People and things in the world come and go and have their time.

There is a saying: "If you want to be happy in life, please never rely on others to bring you happiness."

The road of life is long, we walk through the vast sea of ​​people, trek in the mundane world, and all of us are pursuing happiness.

The key to unlocking happiness is not in other people's pockets, it is hidden in one's own practice.

If you want to have a happy life, you must cultivate yourself.

01

practice appearance

Self-cultivation begins with the cultivation of appearance.

Good looks = good impression.

Some people say that it only takes 45 seconds to make a first impression between people.

And these 45-second impressions come from appearance, and through outer clothing, it reflects a person's inner quality and emotional intelligence.

Just like the day when a woman puts on high heels, she is more aura; the day when a man puts on a suit, she is more upright and capable.

Dressing should be like life, overturning, reinventing, and practicing again and again.

Instead of letting others take the time to discover your beauty, we should make a good impression the first time.

When the TV series "The World of the Married" was on the air, many people fell in love with the heroine's image and temperament.

Her clothes, hairstyles, lipsticks, and bags have all become the trends that women off-screen are chasing.

The 53-year-old heroine shows us how a woman should bloom her beauty in the play.

Women, should not let household chores consume themselves, they should keep clean and take care of their skin; dress neatly and walk gracefully and naturally.

You may not have an outstanding appearance, but you can have a good figure through exercise;

You can have no big-name clothes, but at least keep yourself neat and tidy.

From now on, buy carefully, wear it carefully, the wardrobe doesn't need to be too big, it can hold your different states and moods, and you can wear a set casually, which is what you look like.

02

Practice character

If you want to have a happy life, you must know how to cultivate your own character.

Good character = good luck.

I have read a story of "The Art of the Old Locksmith":

An old locksmith has repaired countless locks in his life and accumulated a lot of skills.

So, he decided to choose one of his two apprentices to inherit his craftsmanship.

The two apprentices have learned a lot under the guidance of the master.

In order to test them, the old locksmith gave them a task to open the safe separately, and the one with the least amount of time wins.

After the task was completed, when the two compared, the big apprentice only took 10 minutes, while the young apprentice spent half an hour.

The old locksmith said to them, "You have all opened the locks, so what did you see?"

The eldest apprentice said ecstatically: "It's full of money, and it's full of hundred-yuan bills!"

The little apprentice said hesitantly, "I'm sorry, Master, I just opened the lock, but I didn't see anything inside."

The old locksmith nodded knowingly and announced that the little apprentice was his successor.

He said: "To be my successor, you must have a strong character. You can only open the lock in your heart and have no other thoughts, so that you will not break into the house and steal because of your own thoughts, and harm others and yourself."

Sanders once said: "Character can determine life, it is more important than talent."

Some people may not have enough talent and ability, but they are upright and reliable, and the final outcome will not be bad.

Those seemingly unexpected arrivals of good fortune are actually the true feedback of character.

As the saying goes: "All the surprises and good luck in the world are your accumulated character and kindness."

A good character is the trump card of life and the ticket to success.

03

Practice temper

If you want to have a happy life, you must know how to cultivate your temper.

Good temper = good feng shui.

Dr. Hailan once said: "Throwing a tantrum is like throwing a bomb. The building of love and trust you have built so hard will collapse in an instant."

When you lose your temper, your foundation collapses; when you get emotional, friends and relatives stay away.

A person who can't control his emotions will fail, those who are close to him will stay away, and those who pass by will be intimidated.

Zeng Guofan, a famous minister in the late Qing Dynasty, had a great temper when he was young.

During his tenure in the capital, because of trivial matters, he often quarreled with his colleagues, which caused many people to avoid him when they saw him, and even refused to share the table with him when they were eating.

The uncontrollable bad temper not only damaged Zeng Guofan's interpersonal relationship, but also hindered the development of his career.

He said: "My colleagues and I in the official circles are not compatible, and there are thorns everywhere. Later, I came to my senses, changed my future, and felt a little at peace."

He Jiong said: "Others don't need to be responsible for your life, you are the only one who needs to be responsible for your own life. Losing your temper is the greatest harm to yourself."

A sudden outburst of temper may ruin your hard-worked career and your bright future.

Don't let yourself become a victim of bad temper, learn to cultivate temper, and then you can reap blessings.

Take care of your temper, don't be in a hurry, don't be annoyed when you meet people.

You will find that there are more nobles around, and the road becomes smoother.

04

Practice words and deeds

If you want to have a happy life, you must know how to cultivate your own words and deeds.

Cultivating words and deeds starts with speaking well.

Talk well = top EQ.

Fan Deng told such a story.

A friend of his was on a business trip and stayed in a hotel.

When it was time to check out, the front desk clerk said coldly: "You wait here, we have to check the room first to see if there is anything damaged or missing."

Friends had to wait at the front desk for the results of the rounds.

At this time, the waiter added: "There were guests a few days ago who broke the kettle in the room, and there were guests who stole towels before..."

Hearing this sentence, the friend suddenly felt very unhappy, as if his character had been questioned.

Later, he went to the city on business and decided to change to a hotel.

When checking out this time, the waiter said with a smile: "Please wait a moment, we will go to your room to check to see if you have anything left in the room."

The two waiters, although both were saying the same thing.

However, different tones give people different feelings; different words reveal different emotional intelligence.

The ancients said: "The mouth can spit out roses, and it can also spit out thistles."

There is a question on Zhihu: "What kind of person can be called high emotional intelligence?"

A high praise replied: "Speak well."

A good word is warmer than cloth; three evil words are deeper than spears and halberds.

Knowing how to speak well is a person's highest emotional intelligence.

05

I really like the words of the writer San Mao:

People and things in the world have their time to come and go. We just need to cultivate ourselves into the best form and wait quietly.

The years are long, and the road ahead is long. We are all painting the picture of life; we are all solving the problem of happiness.

A happy life requires self-cultivation.

To cultivate a good appearance is to make a good impression; to cultivate a good character is to accumulate good luck;

To cultivate a good temper is to absorb good feng shui; to cultivate good words and deeds is to create a high level of emotional intelligence.

Life is a practice.

Cultivate yourself well, and happiness will come as promised.

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