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No Pressure at 20

It's focus time.

By Pattie GoldiePublished 6 months ago 3 min read

We turned 20 the same year, and on his birthday, as we were walking back from a lecture, he said to me, "Goldie, I am a failure." At the age of 20, I have no money, no skills, and no girlfriend. I'm at a loss for what to do with my life. "I wish I could make big moves like some of the guys who are balling right now."

We were classmates, and I had no idea what to say to him. How do you explain to someone who has just finished a three-hour marathon lecture that the money your parents are spending to train you makes sense?

The following Saturday, I took him to meet my father's friend in one of the market close to our campus, who has a big warehouse, one of the men he was always referring to as "rich." The man was 42 years old at the time, and I had already explained why I was bringing my friend to see him.

We spent the entire day at his store. He had been standing for hours, negotiating with customers, exchanging insults, and blasting people on the phone to bring money for goods they had taken. He told us to stand and watch the market, but my friend got tired after two hours, while I lasted three hours.

He gave us each $10 before we returned to our hostel and advised us to stay in school. "Make the most of what you have now, and the future will take care of itself." But don't get so caught up in the future that you forget to lay a solid foundation today. I served my uncle for seven years; if I hadn't focused and learned the trade, I wouldn't be here."

When we returned to the hostel, as we stepped into the room, I was expecting to see my friend my down on the bed and complain of been tired, but what I saw instead made happy, the smile that beamed from his face that evening was a kind I couldn't remember when I saw saw him smile that way last. I asked aren't you tired ? He said Beck I am but it's worth it. Besides you never told me you knew Daddy Network, after all the time I've mentioned him to your earing.

I wouldn't know what to say to him at that moment but I was also happy and impressed that he saw what I wanted him to see. He also held on to the words of that man firmly that until we graduated he never look so hopeless again, and I also heard him on different occasions motivating other student with the word Daddy Network told us.

Close your ears to the negative news of "no jobs or opportunities" if you are in school. Finish with good grades to give yourself a fighting chance. It is not the time to become a multimillionaire in your early twenties. Everything has a time and a season. Create a process and learn about how the world works.

This year marks my friend's 31st birthday, and all of his dreams are gradually coming true. He has an excellent legal job with a an open bar somewhere downtown as a side hustle and has recently purchased a small house, though he is paying in installments.

Please believe that your life will continue to make sense. Do not give in to unnecessary pressure or allow yourself to be intimidated and oppressed by people you do not know Thier source of livelihood. shut out noice that irritates you. "You'll be fine."



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