The start of the new year begins with new opportunities waiting to be taken advantage of, but this pressure to change or improve can actually backfire and send us spiraling into the deep throes of failure. Why do we feel pressured to achieve a goal just because it's a new year? Tomorrow is a new day, yet if you don't achieve a goal tomorrow, the disappointment doesn't seem to compare to the letdown of failing a New year's resolution. Why the pressure? Improving oneself sometimes takes decades of constant work so how can we expect ourselves and each other to change in a year?
We’re all guilty of this “self-abuse” and I am no exception. My new year’s resolution is to finally lose my baby weight, 35lbs to be exact. I have been in a constant battle with my weight and making this my resolution was supposed to prove to me that I will finally take this seriously and won’t give up. We are currently on the 7th and I have messed up already. Feelings of self-loathing isn’t something I'm new to, but that doesn’t seem to ease any of the guilt or disappointment I feel towards myself. Why is it so hard to achieve my goals? Some say a person has to hit rock bottom, have an epiphany, and then be ready to fully commit to themselves, but I don’t want to wait for rock bottom. As a matter of fact, I feel like I hit rock bottom 3 years ago. Where is my epiphany? Obviously, I know I am not healthy, so where’s the change?
I have recently been debating with myself if I should just give up. But I can’t. I hate how I look and feel and only I have the power to change it. So I have made a promise to myself to find something to feel good about every day. I have also said to myself that I will try to just focus on being healthy in little ways and progressively move on to big things. I’m GaGa over veggies over here (or trying to be) and trying to get some exercise in any way I can.
New year’s is fun when there’s a party and all your family and friends come together to celebrate the start of a new year and all the possibilities that apparently were not attainable during the last year (sarcasm). Let’s be honest with ourselves for a second. Achieving a new year’s resolution can be just as rewarding and exhilarating as achieving a ‘regular’ goal. I get happy if I cook 3 times a day instead of eating takeout. I cleaned my room yesterday and you better be dang sure it felt great! I went to sleep a new woman. It’s the little things.
My point being achieve your goals every day! Make small improvements, small changes because the more you achieve the easier the resolutions will be to achieve. And cut yourself some slack once in a while, we’re human, and we make mistakes (as cliché as that is). Yes, New Year New Me can be a great mindset, and always strive to be your best self, but we don’t need a new year to be great.
One of my favorite quotes is “We’re all Animals’”, because guess what, we are. Difference being we can achieve greatness and achieve it anytime of the year!
Feel free to agree or disagree and let me know what you think! I would love to converse with all of you sometime and share our thoughts!
And of course, I would appreciate any tips to help me continue to be able to write every day and interact with you!
Til next time!
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