Never let a friend, live in your home for a long time, this is not indifference, but foresight

"The so-called happiness lies in knowing a person's boundaries and loving that boundary.

The happiness of friendship probably lies in sharing joy, bearing sorrow together, understanding and comforting each other, and helping each other through each journey of life.

However, there are limits and considerations for helping others.

Some people believe that friends are mutual, and since they have feelings for each other, they should try their best to meet each other's expectations and help each other as much as they can, so that their feelings for each other will be stronger and they can grow from the relationship.

There are also people with a delicate minds, considering the relationship between friends too close, there will be some conflicts and gaps, and finally make good intentions to do "bad things", the relationship has become awkward and strange, that is more than worth the loss.

Both ways of thinking are not wrong, the problem is to keep the right distance, for the benefit of each other, rather than allowing the relationship to be infinitely close.

A friend has something to do, and it's okay to stay at home for a few days occasionally, but it's best to let him stay at your home for a long time, this is not indifference and calculation, but wisdom and foresight.

Getting too close will expose each other's shortcomings and deficiencies

Between friends, is to feel like each other, will often chat and play together, to share joy and heart.

But once you get closer, trouble will continue.

Because when we keep a distance from each other, we see each other's merits and strengths.

When living together, the original rapport will turn into a disaster.

Many people once did not believe in this statement, until after their own experience, only to know that this is not alarmist.

From eating habits to bedtime, getting up and folding the quilt, watching the video outside or not, where to throw the garbage, all kinds of details, can become a test of two people's friendship, and sharpen each other's patience "litmus test".

Can get along together for a long time, but also rely on each other friendly relationship, are both know how to respect each other's sense of boundaries.

If neither too much attachment to each other, nor too much interference with each other, otherwise the relationship will become hard and tense.

Short-term living together, as friends, can also take care of each other's feelings, if you let friends live in your home for a long time, you may be looking for yourself uncomfortable.

The other party accommodates you, he is tired, and you accommodate each other, that is, you are tired, wait until you can not tolerate the outbreak, and that is when the friendship ends.

Get too close, you can not meet all the needs of friends

Generally speaking, unless friends are sharing a house, a friend can live in your home, indicating that he is either emotionally frustrated, unemployed, or has suffered some kind of blow, or encountered some kind of trouble.

this is the period when the friend's heart should be sad, or anxious, and he will become sensitive.

As a friend, you need to take care of his mood swings, and tolerate his "ignorance".

But you forget that there is a noble and glorious side of human nature, but also a fragile and vulnerable side.

You are also an adult of similar age to your friend, your experience is not too different, and your mental capacity may also be similar.

you will also have emotional problems, work problems, relationship problems, and tangled anger at times.

At this time, if you accidentally offend your friend in words, or if your friend does not consider your feelings in life, then the pressure you have accumulated may explode.

And your expectation of each other is: the other is my friend, he should take care of me ah, why do I have to be accommodating to him?

If you show boredom to your friend, pointing out his shortcomings, the other party will feel that you are not close to the person, thus laying a hidden danger to your relationship.

So, there is no way to meet all the needs of your friend, or not let him live with you for a long time.

Too close, will expose each other's privacy

Letting a friend live at home is equivalent to revealing your most real self to your friend.

For sensible friends, they will know when they should avoid, when they can participate in your life, rather than 24 hours a day, with no space and gaps to "possess" each other.

If you meet a "hot" friend, you may find your problems and will be tired of disciplining you, and you can not easily talk about it.

For example, your work and relationship problems, how much money you earn, and conflicts in your family of origin.

Some things, even in front of friends, but also want to retain a little decency, to avoid future relationship stalemate, the other party has witnessed your bad, make each other embarrassed.

Adults, it is wise to learn to protect their privacy.

When friends get along, we can provide appropriate help, but please do not overestimate the friendship between you.

sensible friends who will consciously understand that they cannot stay at their friends' homes for too long, which will cause distress to each other and affect the quality of their friends' lives.

That such friends are worth coming and going to for a long time.

People get along with each other, do not over-consume each other's patience, and do not just invade each other's territory to maintain just the right distance, the relationship can go on for a long time.

This is not indifference, but foresight and wisdom.