Identity Concepts

Who am I? Weird question, right? But who we are is what is defined by the decisions we make, our attitudes, our daily routines, and the decisions we make and have made. Identity is not necessarily the color of your skin or your age or even how you look. It is all about the way you feel about yourself. Some people forget who they are and are not true to themselves.

We live in a world where people expect perfection. But the world is not perfect, and we are not either. As children, we talk about what we want to be when we grow up. But over time, things change, and we take a different path and for the parents expecting their children to follow in their footsteps and the children do not, the world has come to an end.

You cannot force people to be something that they are not, and you cannot make people be what you want them to be. In life, I think we are held to a certain standard and when we do not meet that standard, we are looked down upon. Your lifestyle belongs to you. Do not let anyone tell you any different. If you are not a Christian, you are not less of a person. We are all somebody. At one point and time, that same saved person was once a sinner so when the person points one finger at you, four fingers point right back at them. But of course, those people do not view it that way. But I do.

The media is horrible when it comes to identity. It is all about sexuality. I do not care what the sexual orientation of a person is, that has nothing to do with anything. People are people. Everyone has rights. The 1st amendment states freedom of speech, press, religion, and assembly. Notice the freedom part. That means we do not have to agree with each other’s actions or faults. I always say people can agree to disagree. People have a hard time when it comes to agree to disagree.

Gender identity is a big issue as well. I hear of people saying they feel like they are in the wrong body. When I was young, that was the most confusing thing I had ever heard up until now. It is a mind thing. I once made the joke that I wanted to be the first female NFL player. My high school P.E. teacher said, women do not play football. My arrogance kicked in. My response was, well men wear dresses so what is the difference? I was young at the time so what did I know. But now that I am older, gender identity is something I understand. If this was baseball, strike three, I am out.

But one thing about identity: self-confidence. You must be confident in yourself and be who you are instead of who everyone else wants you to be. Never be ashamed of your identity. Be who you are. Not who they want you to be. If there is something you do not like about yourself, change it because you want to. Now if its detrimental to your health, that is different because the doctor probably advised it but if it is not, then do not worry about it.

Appearance is part of identity too. When you look in the mirror, if you see something you do not like, do not stress over it. Work on changing yourself. Become a better you. This goes for men and women. Whatever it is you do not like about yourself, change it. Nothing happens overnight. Patience is a virtue. Do not be afraid of change. Embrace it.