I’m a pessimistic person by nature. I’m told that I’m negative and grumpy all the time. I don’t want to be like that. Especially since we’re raising a little girl and I don’t want her to be like me in that regard. I don’t want her to have that outlook on life like I do. I’ve decided in the new year to make a positive change in my life. To see things in a better way. To see the world in a brighter light. Here’s a few tips that I’m following to help turn that frown upside down.
When you’re faced with a situation where you’d normally respond in an angry or aggressive way, take a deep breath. Breathing deeply helps to stop the stress response by flooding your system with oxygen which can help you to react less aggressively.
Count To Ten
This is an oldie but a goodie. I’ve heard dozens of times throughout my life to count to ten before responding to something if your first reaction is anger. Counting to ten, or even to five, can give you that pause to help you decide how you’re going to respond before you respond. The time you spend counting can also be spent taking deep breaths so this one can work with the breathing to give a double dose of anger-busting remedy. This is helping me in my journey to being less of a grump all the time.
Count Your Blessings
However you choose to look at the good things in your life, whether they be from a God or the universe or if you’re just lucky, most people can count ten things they’ve been “blessed” with off the top of their heads. Keeping the good things in mind daily can help to stop anger from taking over in stressful situations.
Keep On The Sunny Side
Most of the time you can choose to look at the positive things in your life rather than focusing on the negative. I know there are extremely terrible things that happen in people’s lives, but in general, you can choose to focus on the positive things rather than the negative. For example, I’m out of work for at least the next three months due to the sudden onset of a medical condition. I’ve been pretty negative about it, but rather than focus on that, I can choose to focus on the fact that my fiancé is picking up the slack in our finances and that I get to spend more time with our young daughter. I still get negative and focus on the stress, but I can choose at any time to focus on these positive things.
Turn Negative Self-Talk Into Positive Self-Talk
Negativity easily takes over your thoughts when you let it. Your thoughts are like a garden. If you let the weeds (negative thoughts) take over then you'll have nothing but weeds. You have to constantly pull the weeds up by the roots and not let them take hold in your garden. When you have negative thoughts like I'm so bad at this, turn it into I can be better at this in the future, or I just need more practice or experience to be better at [insert activity here]. Slowly, you'll be able to turn your negative thoughts into positive thoughts. Eventually, your mind will do this all on its own without much, or any, input from you.
The choice is up to you. There are many articles, blog posts, songs, even movies about choosing how you’re going to view your life. I’m using whatever tactics are necessary to focus on the good and be less of a grump. You can too.
Are there any tactics you use to keep stress and anger to a minimum? Email me at [email protected] I’d like to hear from you.
Thanks for reading!