Grow the suffering into your life

one

At that time, he is in a setback in life, and consults an elder, on how to overcome the suffering of life.

The elder said, look at the trees in the wilderness. If you understand them, you will know how to overcome the suffering of life.

He looked at the trees in the wilderness, but he could see nothing.

The elder said, in the hot sun, in the ice and snow, the trees have a house to protect them from the cold. In a storm, in a thunderstorm, can a tree run away? No, trees don't have houses, they don't have legs, they can't escape, they can't escape, they have to endure alone, alone to fight against the suffering, it is this suffering and fight, that makes them more Stoic and strong. Perhaps that's why trees can live for thousands of years and people can't live for more than a hundred.

When he looked at the trees in the wilderness, the trees without houses and legs, he seemed to understand a lot.

two

There are two trees in front of the neighbor's house. To dry the clothes, the neighbor hung a wire between two trees, with each end of the wire tied around the trunk of each tree.

As the trunk grew thicker and thicker, the iron ring tightened and pulled slowly into the tree. Later, the ring of iron was deeper and deeper, and the trunk was strangled out of a deep wound. At last, the ring had grown completely into the tree, leaving no trace of it but a faint scar on the skin of the trunk.

At that time, every time I saw these two trees, I worried that they would not be strangled by the iron ring. But until now, the two trees had not been strangled but had grown taller and more luxuriant.

As I get older, as I understand more about life and suffering, I seem to understand some of this. For these two trees, when they could not get rid of the suffering (iron circle), they used their lives to contain the suffering (iron circle), "grow" the suffering (iron circle) into their lives and regard the suffering (iron circle) as a part of their lives.

When we cannot avoid suffering, learn to be like these two trees, to face the suffering, tolerate the suffering with life, "long" the suffering into life, and take the suffering as a part of life, this is not only conducive to the growth of our life but also will make us strong all the way.

three

Many sweet fruits have bitter pits.

A bitter nucleus, why can have sweet flesh?

It was not until I read a poem by a poet that I was enlightened. The poet said: Every pearl, there is a kernel of pain.

The poet's words remind me of my childhood. At that time, see the round pearl, like a seed, so, they put the pearl as a seed into the ground, and constantly give it watering, and fertilization, hoping that it will grow into a pearl tree, a tree full of pearl fruit.

And my mother told me that pearls are not planted in the ground, not watered out, not fertilized out, not loved and cared for, but the clam suffered thousands of pain, with the painstaking efforts of life to make suffering sand into a flash of pearls.

For the pearl, that kernel of pain is the sand that gives it disaster, misfortune, and tears. But if you look at the surface of the pearl, does it look like a bright smile?

Oh, I understand, when you use laughter to contain tears, with joy to contain pain, with joy to contain sadness, you can become a dazzling pearl, become a sweet and beautiful fruit.