Good Days With LJ: Week 2

by LJ Chaplin 23 days ago in advice

Chapter Two: The Unknown & Celebrating Life

Good Days With LJ: Week 2

Recently I have been reflecting on my life. Reaching the end of my early 20s and having no idea of what to pursue in life can be a daunting aspect. At one time I had it all figured out. I'd go to University, study Modern Languages, and work my way towards becoming an interpreter for the United Nations. What a dream. However, three months into my course it just wasn't meant to be and I left. Five years on, with a love-hate relationship with retail, I still to this day have moments of feeling defeated and scared about what the future holds, even when the present is what should matter.

But this is not an article on defeat. This is an article on accepting and enjoying the life you wish to lead.

"Adopt The Pace Of Nature: Her Secret Is Patience"

So many of my loved ones have been shaken by the idea that there is not enough time in the day to figure out what to do, where to start, or how to reach that point where life miraculously falls into place. I myself am no stranger to the hope that something will magically happen overnight, and some form of success will fabricate out of thin air.

What I am trying to say is that things will not happen instantly, and there is no shame in feeling like the World is going to lock you up and throw away the key just because your shit isn't together. There are too many people who share the same feeling. Talk to your friends, they will be in the same boat. Never shy away from those who appear to have reached their goals, they would have felt the same as you at one point. Rome wasn't built in a day after all. With patience there is appreciation.

"I Enjoy Life When Things Are Happening, That Means You're Alive"

Whilst you may not know what lies beyond tomorrow, or what might even happen when you wake up in the morning, learn to see it as a thrill, rather than a fear. Who will text you to see if you are free? What are you going to watch on TV? Got no plans and have a free house? Strut your stuff in your favourite pair of sweatpants, or nothing at all (cheeky).

Take each day as it comes. You can invest as much time as you want into whatever you want. If you have a passion, whether it is to write, to paint or to sing, use that free time to practise it. Shape your craft, do what sets your soul on fire and brings joy to yourself.

If you want to explore more options for a career, do that too. There is truth in disciplining yourself when wanting to reach your goals, but do not be afraid to treat yourself in the process. It is unhealthy to become so invested in something that nothing else exists. Strive for success, but use what is around you as a positive catalyst.

I am no expert in how a person should live their life or what is best for them, but I do know from experience that fearing what is going to happen in life, and not having a sense of direction is detrimental to who I am. As of late I have embraced what I do for a living, the joy of having a smaller circle of friends, and the days where being productive have flown out the window.

Enjoy what you do, even if it isn't your long term plan. Enjoy who you are, nobody else can change you. Whatever changes you make for yourself, make sure they help you to grow, develop, and contribute to helping you reach your full potential, whenever that may be.

"We are bombarded on all sides by a number of messages we don't want or need. More information is generated in a single day than we can absorb in a lifetime. To fully enjoy life, all of us must find our own breathing space and peace of mind" - James E. Faust
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LJ Chaplin

24, poet/writer, UK

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