Glasses of guidance

"Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and a forgiving heart, one who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them."

― Marvin J. Ashton

"The people you surround yourself with influence your behaviors, so choose friends who have healthy habits."

- Dan Buettner

"Advice is a dangerous gift, even from the wise to the wise, and all courses may run ill."

― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring

"Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't."

― Erica Jong

"Never give advice unless you have walked the walk because anybody can talk the talk."

― Valencia Mackie

"Write with the door closed, rewrite with the door open."

― Stephen King, On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft

Who you a letting get into your life? I often ask myself that question. And today I woke up, with someone asking me that.

It's so important to select the influence over your life, the people you listen to, and the people you ask advice from. Because every person around you is a big influence over you, rather you believe it or not. So be wise when you start to select the people you will listen to. They can poison or nurture your garden.

Life is your most treasured gift; do not waste it.

Who are you listening to, the people you are walking with, is usually who you become later.

Sometimes in life, it is better to be in solitude than surround.

In solitude, you can see things more clearly. Build and rebuild yourself. So be the pick with the people you choose to guide you with advice in life. Sometimes the best friends are not the best advisers. It's difficult to know how to separate the people we have fun with from the people we search for guidance. But is a necessary and wise thing to do because life is too precious and short to listen to any person's advice you listen to. Because in the end, life is yours.

Guidances, advice, anything that influences the path in your life must be taken with caution.

So let me tell you a story about the importance of listening to the right people in life.

Sarah was a smart and intelligent girl. She was good in everything she did at school, math, science, biology, history, well everything in between. But her favorite class, she could not do it, theater. Every time Sarah tried to participate, she just froze. She could not act in the shows with the other's kids.

So as all good friends do, they tried to convince Sarah to get involved with others' things at school. But every time she walked into the theater auditory, the sad look on her face was clear.

Then, one day, Lana notices Sarah's struggle to participate in the shows at school. Lana was not one of Sarah's friends, but she saw what her other's friends couldn't see that Sarah had a lot of talent. But somehow she struggled on stage. So, one day, Lana brought Sarah a snack, and they start to talk. Lana was too much interested in helping Sarah to go on stage. She told her, " look, Sarah, put these glasses on. They have the power to make you invisible; they will help you." Sarah listened to Lana, who was continually trying to convince her to go back on stage with the other's kids.

Like magic, Sarah put on the glasses and walked into that stage, and suddenly she was Sarah. Later on, all the kids thanked Lana for helping Sarah. She gave a lot of good times and laughed for the kids at school. the teachers use to ask Sarah , why she insisted in use the glasses on stage, " well I need to see people properly", but that was not true, the glasses helped her be herself on stage.

Sometimes in life, we just need Lana and glasses. Because when all of Sarah's friends were helping her get involved in others' activities, Lana helped her find a way to get on stage. Lana saw what other's could not see it.

That's guidance. The people we listen to are influencing our choices, behavior, and Consequently, the future.

The other's friend of Sarah was not wrong, but they could not guide her at that moment. In the same way, there are things in life that just people like Lana can show us.

So be aware of the people we are listening to is so important.

Because we can have friends who give us good times but are horrible advisers for life, but still are good friends. Knowing how to listen to the right people in life is a treasure. Not everyone can give you guidance, don't give this power to anyone. Guidance is a precious position in life that only some people can occupy. Hear whatever people say, but listen just to some people. Have a lot friends, but don't be bully to make decision that are totally against your values. Trust and guidance is a treasure that no any one can have in your life.Be aware of that.

But peharbs you don't have Lana, who see in you what you cannot see it. Just silence all the other's voice, because the truth is we all have a Lana inside of us.

“We have all a better guide in ourselves, if we would attend to it, than any other person can be.”

― Jane Austen, Mansfield Park

“Make no excuses for your authority nor for your fierce grace. Make no apologies for your boundaries nor for your decision to be vulnerable.”

― C. JoyBell C.