Do people count too much, but in their torture?

The words are not bad, there is no shortage of gossip in life, occasionally listen to it as a joke, more serious than easy to make yourself uncomfortable.

I have seen a person in the wrong after doing something, because of someone else's words and sleepless nights, repeatedly guessing the meaning behind the words, even after apologizing also sleepless nights, and finally tormented themselves sick.

Many times, a strong calculation, only to make yourself more tired of living.

Be generous, know things over to turn the page, and live each day in the future.

1, people are too much but easy to lose

Having is never a fluke, impermanence is the norm in life, all the maturity is from the beginning of the loss.

Although the loss is the beginning of maturity, but not all loss means maturity.

Some people, even if they lose, still do not wake up, I do my way to do their own, think they are doing the right thing, but do not think about the number of mistakes, which will eventually lead to a big disaster.

Instead of being calculating about life, you should learn to tolerate everything.

Many times, those things that seem to require calculating a step back may have a different insight.

Life's gains and losses, calculating too much is easy to look petty, invisible intensification of potential conflicts.

In the past, two people were working together as tailors, one responsible for design and clothing, and the other responsible for external sales.

The original cooperation is good, which had thought sales to see the profit margin, but also the ambition to do it alone, first thought to learn how to dressmaking, after learning to start calculating thorns, and finally forced to do the design initiative to quit.

She thought that the other side are not doing, the business as their own, but did not think that only know how to make clothes and do not know how to design half a bucket of water, now earn money, but the future is uncertain.

Seems to be a shrewd approach, but is making a fool.

In calculating too much, but lost the opportunity to make more money.

So people are less calculating, more concessions, and sometimes suffer losses is a blessing.

2, and bad things to entangle, will only live more pain

Voltaire said, "What makes people tired is not the mountains in the distance, but a grain of sand in the shoe."

Some things exist, and it is difficult to ignore, rather than bent on going on, why not stop the pace of moving forward, take off the shoes and pour out the sand?

Very simple to solve things, but there are many people who are prone to foolishness, knowing that it is not possible to do so.

It is said that injustice should not be solved, the beginning of the conflict often stems from a small matter, originally an apology can be solved, but because both sides do not give way, one than the other will be calculated, and finally, the small matter tossed into a big deal, the conflict is difficult to resolve.

In ancient times, two neighboring families at the same time to build a house, but the house was built almost, because of land boundary issues and quarrels, almost to the point of old death.

Fortunately, one of the elders advocated a three-foot concession at the original boundary to resolve the conflict by retreating, so the other party was moved to choose a three-foot concession at the original boundary, and finally, the two walls were six feet wide.

Very often, too much calculation will easily intensify the conflict, but the appropriate concessions will promote the harmony of the relationship.

In the conflict, if one party is willing to take the initiative to seek peace, there will be so much follow-up trouble.

Doing too much, making enemies everywhere, will only make their own lives more difficult.

It is better to quickly cut the mess, the bad things out of the door, to live a good life that belongs to their own every day.

You know people's energy is limited, spend too much time in tangled with bad things, and there will be no time to improve themselves.

So, instead of letting the bad things, it is better to turn around decisively and start a new life for yourself.

3、Let go of the calculations and embrace the new life

The Second Blossom: "When you let go of preconceptions and pretensions, no longer anxious and needy, your heart is truly open."

If you live a life, you will only end up physically and mentally exhausted, but it is better to let go of preconceptions and pretensions and live in the way you like.

The reason why some people live a very tiring life is not how hard life is, but too much about the views of others.

Sometimes you just go out and take out the garbage, but still have to wear makeup to go out, not for other reasons, to not let others see their face, but did not think that perhaps others do not care about your face or not.

It's just too much to worry about, but it's just mediocre.

The time to calculate too much, it is better to use the time to improve yourself.

There is still a long way to go in life, and the vision should be long-term to go farther.