Cultivating your own "city"

Those with far-reaching scheming will not be emotional. Cultivation city.

"Sun Tzu's Art of War" says: "Soldiers are tricky, so they can show what they can't, and use them and show what they don't use."

In a nutshell, fighting a battle that leaves the other side confused, can only take advantage of the falsehood and reality.

The same is true of people and things, and the game of moves pays attention to the indeterminate form of chess.

Everything is exposed, which makes people look down on it and is useless.

With everything in mind, Fang showed his unmoving heroic character.

A truly powerful person knows how to cultivate shrewdness, accumulate strength quietly, and wait for time to bloom.

01

hold back your desires

During the Warring States Period, the famous general Wang Jian was ordered to command the army to conquer the state of Chu.

Before the expedition, the King of Qin came to express his condolences to Wang Jian and asked him if he had any requirements.

Unexpectedly, Wang Jian said vulgarly that he hoped that the King of Qin would give him more gold and silver jewelry for his retirement.

After hearing this, King Qin laughed and readily agreed.

After the King of Qin left, Wang Jian's confidants were puzzled. They knew that Wang Jian was not a man who was greedy for money, but why did he behave like this in front of the King of Qin.

Wang Jian explained that it was to make the King of Qin think that he had no ambitions, and only wanted to be rich and rich.

Not showing ambition easily is often the way of preservation in the world.

Soldiers who want to be generals will only grit their teeth and work hard.

The swallow bird with the ambition of Honghu will only silently fight the sky again and again.

Cao Cao and Liu Bei talked about being a hero. If Liu Bei talked about his dream of helping the Han family, he might risk his life.

It was precisely because Liu Bei acted complacency and used thunder to cover his mind that the situation in the latter three points of the world was created.

It is a good thing for a person to have lofty ambitions, but a shallow person will only talk about it, while a person with a big heart will silently keep his feet on the ground.

Instead of ranting about ambition, it's better to work quietly and then surprise everyone.

02

control your temper

There is an old saying: "The foolish man is full of anger, but the wise man holds back his anger."

If a man is dragged away by his temper, he is inferior.

Mature people can stabilize their emotions, tolerate what others cannot tolerate, and tolerate what others cannot tolerate.

Lin Zexu had a strong temperament when he was young. His father Lin Binri wrote "Controlling Anger" and hung it in Lin Zexu's study, and changed his name to "Ze Xu", which means that he should control his temper and deal with things calmly.

After becoming an official, Lin Zexu kept in mind his father's teachings, and wrote a new plaque with the word "control of anger" by himself, constantly warning himself.

Once, Guangdong Customs inspected Yu Kun and foreigners to collude to break the ban. Lin Zexu was furious when he found out, and broke the tea bowl.

When he raised his head, the word "control anger" came into view, and he immediately calmed down.

The next day, he still received Yu Kun as if nothing had happened, and after a clever negotiation, he finally made Yu Kun obediently hand over the silver taels for the construction of the Humen Fort.

"The Godfather" says: "The most dangerous form of willfulness is to unleash anger without thinking."

Anger to decide, anger to act, often make a big mistake.

Small things make smoke, and big things make fire, and it is easy to make people despise.

Everything can be calm, only then can you not be angry and powerful, and you can take care of things slowly.

Knowing how to control emotions freely is our mellow wisdom in mediating complex world affairs.

03

Condense your edge

Zeng Guofan believes that there are "four taboos" in officialdom, one of which is "the one who acts arrogantly and recklessly loses".

Once, when Emperor Daoguang promoted him, Zeng Guofan was not arrogant, and specifically told his younger brother:

"Don't be arrogant just because you have a little knowledge. Always be in awe is the way to cherish happiness."

After serving as an official for decades, Zeng Guofan knew very well that when the water was full, it overflowed, and when the people were full, he lost.

According to the official system of the Qing Dynasty, when it is promoted to the third grade, the blue woolen sedan chair can be replaced by a green woolen sedan chair, two sedan chairs are added, and guides and guards are provided.

Although Zeng Guofan was a high-ranking member of the third rank, he didn't like to be ostentatious, and he still rode in a blue woolen sedan chair.

With such a low-key and reserved, Zeng Guofan went all the way to the governor of Liangjiang.

Yang Shen said in the book "Tao Hide Art":

"If the wood is beautiful in the forest, the wind will destroy it; if the people pull out the crowd, the disaster will inevitably come. This is the same principle in ancient and modern times."

Too sharp-edged, easy to put themselves in the spotlight.

The so-called: "The talent of a gentleman, the jade pearl is hidden, and it cannot be easily understood."

Knowing how to keep the front and be humble is the long-term way to settle down.

04

put away your grievances

The strong take responsibility, and the weak often complain.

If you don’t like it, you can complain about grievances. Life is a haze, and others will only stay away from it.

If you blindly blame others, you will only make yourself accustomed to blaming others, and will not help solve the problem.

On the road of growth in life, after all, you can taste all kinds of tastes by yourself, and bear all kinds of pains by yourself.

Lei Jun talked about one thing in his annual speech.

After Xiaomi's listing, it once fell to less than half of the issue price of the new shares.

The investor called Lei Jun over and trained him for more than an hour like a primary school student from product to management.

As the chairman of Lei Jun, he was very embarrassed.

But he did not complain or complain, but tried every means to solve the problem. First, he bought Xiaomi stock at the bottom, and then worked hard on marketing and R&D technology. After that, Xiaomi's stock price rose all the way.

As Osamu Dazai said in his book Disqualification in the Human World:

"I still think it's futile to complain to people, it's better to suffer in silence."

When working with people, being misunderstood is the norm, and encountering bumps is unavoidable.

In our work, the leaders do not know the ins and outs, and they will blame you for not being conscientious enough;

Colleagues will blame you for mistakes and make you scolded for nothing.

Customers may be picky and difficult for you everywhere.

But life is your own life after all, you swallow the grievances you endure; you go over the hurdles you encounter.

The weak complained of their grievances, and the strong carried it with equanimity.

05

hide your likes and dislikes

We are surrounded by all kinds of people, and some people are always disgusting.

Those who are self-conscious, show their faces to the other party without concealment.

Mature and prudent people do not act according to their own preferences.

Liu Bang rebelled against Qin and followed him with Yong Teh from the same county.

But Yongji always despised Liu Bang, and when Liu Bang led his troops out to fight, he gave his Fengyi to the Wei state.

Liu Bang hated him deeply.

But when Liu Bang conquered the world, he did not kill him to vent his hatred.

In order to take into account the overall situation and win people's hearts, he deliberately named Yong Te a marquis.

Seeing that Liu Bang treated his subordinates so kindly and kindly, the officers and soldiers all supported him with all sincerity.

Those who see the big picture have the universe hidden in their hearts, and their likes and dislikes cannot be expressed.

In the Ming Dynasty, Yan Song covered the sky with one hand. Although Xu Jie was not happy, he pretended to obey.

Even if Yan Song's son Yan Shifan had been rude to him many times, he did not show any sullenness.

This kind of sophistication has allowed Xu Jie and Yan Song to live together peacefully for more than ten years.

After Xu Jie became the first assistant and Yan Song was ordered to retire, Xu Jie still showed good intentions.

He understands that when the emperor's decrees are changed, he may not know when Yan Song will make a comeback.

Ma Weidu, a cultural scholar, once said: "You can only work with people you hate, and you have the ability."

People come and go, we can't decide who to work with, but we can decide how to get along.

Broaden your horizons, don't limit yourself to temporary love and hate.

The pattern is bigger, and you know how to consider longer-term gains and losses.

Those who have far-reaching scheming will not be emotional, but consider it comprehensively and deliberately.

▽ "Gui Guzi" said: "The way of the saint is hiding and hiding."

This is the way to be human.

Cultivation of the city is not to intrigue, but to put on armor for oneself and better fight against the world.