Confidence is Key

Confidence Is Key

This is particularly targeting women's confidence. But I hope ANYONE can get something out of this. Just trying to spread some love.

“Confidence is what turns your thoughts into action”

What is the difference between Insecurity and Confidence?

Insecure is your internal self wanting acceptance from an external source. For example, someone needing compliments from others and constantly needing reassurance from people that you’re accepted socially and even mentally in groups. You have issues with being alone with your thoughts because you overwhelm yourself with overbearing thoughts that could destroy you.

Confidence is your internal self already having that acceptance about yourself. For Example, you don’t need that reassurance from an external source because you already believe that you are the best version of yourself.

Why do women have more of an issue with a lack of confidence?

If we really dig deep into the history of “Culture” of women. Even from the very beginning a woman was “made in the eye of man” Which is an absolutely disturbing thought. Never before in history have women had as many opportunities as they do now. But that's because we have been working so hard to prove that we are equally as right. It’s a beautiful thing, really, but sad that it's even something that has to be questioned.

Silent.

Stay Home.

Remain Uninformed.

Listen to their Husbands.

Obey the Rules.

Play Nice.

These are a few things that are expected of women.

How could we not have a lack of confidence when we struggle with this?

The scariest part is that there are still parts of the world that continue to have cultures and communities that have women still being treated poorly.

There are also still men and women that “Are stuck in their own ways” or otherwise known as “Old Fashioned”. When it is expected of a man to be a provider and a wife is to be a homemaker and caretaker of kids, cooking, laundry and cleaning. Why does that have to be expected? Why can’t that be discussed on what the individual wants to take on.

Why do women feel like they need to rely on men for that confidence?

It’s hard when there is a lot of insecurity already built in someone's structure. It makes it hard for someone to be a strong individual when they feel like they need that assurance. It makes a person rely on someone for compliments and then they become codependent.

We seem to wait on someone to give us confidence when in reality… WE’VE HAD IT ALL ALONG! There are so many ways to portray confidence and we can prove it to ourselves.

But that is a matter of if that particular individual wants to explore that option.

What makes being a woman right now hard?

Women for generations have had guidelines of how we are supposed to think, eat, look and even speak. They constantly change and adjust on a daily basis, which currently in this generation we call them trends, fads or the new fashion statement. It's not just clothing that they are talking about.

First there was the thigh gap trend, then there was the flat tummy trend and now there is the bigger the lips the better, trend. This is what separates women from men… men don’t seem to have body shaming type manipulation to the brain. Which causes them to have less understanding why being a physical female in this society is that much harder.

Women struggle with confidence because other women are constantly judging you for what you do. Either social media, going to the grocery store with how you dress or even the way you hold yourself at social gatherings. No wonder why we have such social, anxiety and depression complexes because we can’t seem to please anyone around us.

What do us as Women do to help build our confidence?

STOP CARING.

Stop caring about what others think about how you look that day.

Stop caring about how many likes your instagram/ facebook/ twitter post has.

Stop caring about others AND CARE ABOUT YOURSELF.

What makes you happy?

What do you wear that makes you feel so good about yourself that brings a smile to your face?

What are ways that you can love yourself just that much more?

We as women need to stand together… not fight against. It is so hard to stand tall when you know the world is against you.

Do something for me starting right after you’re done reading this…

Go to a mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful.

Look down and appreciate your body.

This is YOUR body… the body that was given to you.

With all its imperfections that we females ONLY see…

Again we are the only ones that notice those imperfections about ourselves.

Be proud of who you are.

You are a strong individual.

And you have nothing to hide.

We need to spread this love and show people our best selves cause that not only makes you feel better. But it makes your world feel better.

Love you all. <3