Beyond Your Fear Is A Whole New You

We all have fear about something in our lives. It could be rejection, loss, failure, or any other emotions like anchors dragging behind us and holding us back from doing what we want in life. Some fears are all-encompassing and literally become so much of our personality that fear becomes what we live with every day. We push away friends and family or polluting the possibility of creating new friends and seeing new opportunities.

The sad part of this is that you will see an entirely different world if you push past the fear. Not only externally but also internally as well. For example, many people with a simple fear of spiders have confronted this. They have realized that many things they fear are not quite the mountains they have created in their minds. These people have gone on to do things that before conquering one single fear would have seemed impossible. But we know that the impossible is nothing, especially when we believe in ourselves.

You would be surprised how a small step in the right direction can make every step after that seem as though you are walking downhill. Nothing is more complex than overcoming that first fear, yet once it's done, we always look back and wonder, 'Why did it take me so long to do that?'

Another side to this story is when people say they don't know what they want to do in life. This is simply untrue as deep down, somewhere inside you is a dream or idea you have. You want more than anything but the fear of it not working or people saying you cannot do it is causing this dream to be buried deep within your soul, almost forgotten.

Do you honestly believe that every author is the best writer? Or that every artist finds it easy to paint? Do you think that every entrepreneur has had it easy on the way to becoming successful? No, of course not, but every one of them knew what they wanted. Regardless of what anyone said, they started a journey of overcoming that fear. The people that supported them were the people they knew they needed in their lives, the ones that didn't were quickly forgotten.

I remember seeing a quote on Facebook where it just said, "What if we fail?" followed by small writing that said, "Ahh, but what if we don't?" This has always stuck in my mind when faced with any challenge or decision in my life. Changing that mindset isn't easy because we are almost conditioned to not take a risk. What will they say? What will I do if it doesn't work? And so on. I believe as an introvert and somewhat shy, this happens to me more than the average person. The insecurities I have had throughout my life have, like most people, come from experiences I have had growing up. It didn't take a lot to knock my confidence as a kid, and it was something I had to work hard on as I grew up. It isn't something you fix. It is something you learn to read and know where your feelings of insecurity are coming from. Is it the situation in front of me or a memory from my youth?

Look around now, and you will realize that nothing is stopping you from doing whatever you desire. Just start towards that dream, little by little, step by step. One day, you will look back in pride at the person you are today because you, right now, are in control of what you will achieve in the future. It all starts with a single step.