Attachment . . .

Any pain we have ever felt has come from attachment. Feeling attachment brings upon the greatest of sorrows. It is the stem of agony. Any situation that has brought upon the deepest anguish and resentment has always been rooted to attachment. You can love without attachment. You can appreciate without attachment. You can feel without attachment. You cannot grow with attachment.

With attachment comes expectation. Then comes a set of standards. Then comes disappointment. Then comes lowered self esteem. Then comes pain. Then comes anger. Then comes pain again and at some point you begin to wonder: “Is this natural? Normal? No. There is no way we were created to continue this cycle. So then…what? Do I just break free? Can it really be that simple? Where can I get permission to let go of this weight? Wait..what? I don’t need any?!” The most challenging part in all of this is going through the mud that finally brings you to this lesson; should you be open to it.

When we begin to realize that the human experience is meant to be free of attachment and rather full of experience, we are able to just live. Simply and freely live. There is nothing more to living..than just living. We can release our minds from over analyzing situations, people, experiences, and scenarios when we learn that everything around us is the sum of our individual human experience.

Pay attention to your day to day scenarios. When you come home at the end of the day and play the auditory tapes of the things you heard and conversations you had paired with a reel of the images you witnessed, the notion of “everything was just an experience” becomes easier to understand as you look around and realize that none of the things you witnessed during the day are actually happening anymore in the present moment. Everything is left in the past. Your entire 10 hour day quickly gets wrapped up into a 30 second snap shot. And this happens every single day.

You danced with each moment, and whether you realized it or not, you revelled in how it made you feel and without thinking, you scurried on to the next part of your day. Except you most likely also stayed fixated on a single moment that captured your emotion the strongest. Then you analyzed it. Then you ran the scenario over again. Whether it made you feel positive or negative, you may have held on to that moment longer than it belonged to you for. Attachment.

So when you find yourself alone looking up at the night sky, or quieting your mind, notice how everything comes together and make sense of the fact that in this moment…this very present…it is useless to feel attachment. The interactions you have, the people you meet, and the things you see are merely live experiences which mirror your perspective, your thoughts and your ideas.

You consciously expose yourself in that moment to gain everything you can and live the experience. It happily ends there.

Do yourself a favour and allow yourself to feel the ultimate human experience and free yourself of the regular, “trapped in our own everyday mind” mentality that only sees us through to the next day and keeps us bound to the moments and experiences that no longer belong to us.