"If we believe that tomorrow will be better, we can bear a hardship today." - Thich Nhat Hanh
When things go downhill, and we experience rough patches in life, one of the worst things to hear from someone that you’re trying to seek comfort from is, “everything will be ok.” In a sense, yes, it’s comforting knowing you’re not going to feel that low forever, but that response is so vague, meaningless, and truly doesn’t help us see the good in every bad situation. Sometimes we as humans need a little reminder about why we have, are currently, or are going to experience the rollercoaster called life.
During the months following my break-up, I continuously lived in the mindset of “what if.”
“What if I did this differently? What if he did this differently? What if I don’t stop hurting? What if he moves on before me?”
Living with that mentality is draining. Not only does it suck the life out of you daily, but it takes time away from focusing on self-improvement, goal setting, and just moving on with life — believe it or not, life doesn’t stop because you’re hurting.
Thankfully, I have a best friend who gives me in-depth advice and perspective whenever I am feeling down. During those tough months, she shared with me three things that she lives by in her day-to-day life. Whether you’re mourning a break-up, suffering the loss of a loved one, stressed about work, or even just confused on why life is hitting you the way it is — remember these three things, and I promise you will have a more positive outlook on life.
Everything Happens For A Reason
This isn’t an uncommon saying, but it speaks so much truth. Everything that happens in your life happens for a reason. Although it might be hard to see at first, it’s usually because something better is in store for you.
You have to experience that heart-wrenching break up to meet your soulmate. You have to be rejected from countless jobs to land the one that’s best suited for you. You need to experience rock bottom to appreciate the clouds.
Remember Lisa Kudrow? I bet most of you didn’t know she was fired from the TV series “Fraiser.” Following that, she was rejected countless jobs. What came after that? Her role in one of the biggest hit TV shows, “Friends.” Life had bigger and better plans for her, but she had to push through the rocks to get there.
Next time you’re upset about something that happened to you, remember that it’s happening for a reason, and your pain will not last forever.
Focus on the Now
It’s so easy to focus on what we did wrong or could’ve done better in the past. It’s also easy to think too far ahead and wonder what’s going to happen in the future. Instead, we need to focus on today because you can’t change the past, and you can’t control the future.
My friend reminded me, “all you can do is make sure each day is in alignment with what you want, and the rest will fall into place.”
Focusing on the now is the best you can do for not only your mental well being but to achieve your goals and grow as a person.
Take those mistakes you made in the past and learn from them so that you don’t make the same mistakes in the future.
What’s For You Won’t Go By You
This one is my personal favorite and applies to many aspects of life. If something or someone is truly meant to be apart of your life, it will be — whether it’s now or later.
Maybe you lost the person you believe is your soulmate. Appreciate the memories you made with that person, cry it out, and move on. If that person is your soulmate, they’ll make their way back into your life. If they’re not, you’ll find your soulmate.
The same thing goes for a job you want or a friendship that you lost. Try not to dwell on what’s happening right now because you will move on. And if it’s for you, it won’t go by you.
Now take whatever may be hurting you at this moment, hold it in your hand, cry it out, and let it go. Understand it happened for a reason because better things are coming your way, don’t look back on the past, focus on who you are right now, and know that if it’s meant for you, it won’t go by you.
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