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The year was 1837, and the charming countryside of the English county of Kent was aflutter with the arrival of the new lord of the manor, James Davenport. A wealthy aristocrat, he had inherited the grand estate from his father, who had passed away the previous year.
Melodic NarratorPublished 12 months ago in MarriageHow to enhance intimate relationships between genders? Is there any practical analysis of emotional relationships between genders?
At the beginning of the course, I would like to ask you a question: How do you usually solve a problem that you and your partner encounter? Perhaps you may think that good communication is the most important thing. That's right, but sometimes, if the emotional foundation is not good, no matter how much communication is on the same channel. So, good emotions are the prerequisite for all communication. The partner who is best at solving problems is not actually the one who is best at communication, but the one with the best emotional foundation. Regarding this point, American marriage and family expert John M. Gottman once proposed a concept called "emotional accounts". He likened the relationship between husband and wife to an account, where every interaction that enhances their relationship is like depositing money into this account. The more balance in an emotional account, the greater the buffering effect it can have in the face of stress and conflict, and the more likely the two of them are to overcome difficulties. If there is little money in the emotional account or there is already a loss, then the originally small conflict may also become a watershed for emotional breakdown. What are the three tips for "saving money" into an emotional account and how do they interact? I have summarized three tips to share with you. The first trick is to add two emotional responses in daily life. What is an emotional response? It's about creating a sense of being with your partner when responding to them. In the attachment relationship between the baby and the mother, the baby will use various methods to confirm that the mother is with them. For example, he would often search his mother's eyes with his gaze, and if her also looked at him, he would smile at her. The two completed the emotional exchange in such an interaction. If his mother didn't look at him, he would be very disappointed and would use crying to attract his mother's attention. The baby yearns to be seen by its mother. Similarly, in intimate relationships, people also crave to be 'seen' by their significant other. For adults, gaze is not the only channel of interaction, and people will send out various forms of interactive invitations. The most common form is conversation. A wife said to her husband, "I had a nightmare at night." This is an invitation to talk. If the husband said, 'Isn't it just a dream? Everyone can do it, what's the matter?' then he refused the invitation. If he said, 'What dream, tell me about it?' then he accepted this invitation. This is like the gaze of a child and a mother, and the emotional interaction between the two arises. In an intimate relationship, once the other party refuses an invitation to interact, the person who offers the invitation often feels lost, and they use anger to make their partner pay attention to themselves. Perhaps in the future, when encountering such things, I will no longer tell my other half, as I won't receive a response even if I say so. In daily life, every emotional response increases the emotional connection between partners and deposits money into their partner's account. On the contrary, every time you miss or refuse a response, you are losing money. A good relationship partner almost has an instinct to naturally be interested in what the other person is saying and to naturally respond to what the other person is saying. Their conversation, even small talk, was full of warmth. Not only that, when one party uses body language to respond emotionally to an invitation, such as placing their hand on the other party's shoulder, hugging, or throwing a paper ball at the other party, the other party will understand. It can be said that they are saving money into their emotional account anytime and anywhere. So how is a good emotional response? How do you know if you are responding well to the other person or unconsciously rejecting them? Shelly Gable, a psychology professor at the University of California, divided responses into four types based on whether they were positive or negative, active or passive. The first type is a proactive response. For example, if your partner says to you, "I seem to have lost some weight recently." You would say, "Really? It's amazing!" "How much weight did you lose?" "Is exercise effective? How can you persist so much?" "Is it possible to wear the clothes you've always wanted?" These are proactive responses, characterized by many question marks and exclamation points. Of course, perhaps you and your partner don't usually talk like this, but at least you can learn the spirit behind this response: with praise and recognition, with sincerity and interest, and hoping to continue this communication. The relationship message it conveys is: 'I appreciate you and am interested in you.' The second type is a positive and passive response. For example, if your partner says to you, "I seem to have lost some weight recently." You would say, "Yeah, it's amazing." "This is the result of your persistence." In just one sentence, it's over. The relationship message it conveys is: 'I appreciate you, but I'm not very interested in the topic itself.' The third type is a passive and proactive response. For example, if your partner says to you, "I seem to have lost some weight recently." You might say, "Why didn't I notice it?" "It's not obvious." "That's because you originally had a large base." "Is it also known as losing 5 pounds? My colleague, XX, lost 20 pounds in a month!" This response has a passion to keep the topic going, but it's towards criticism and negation. The relationship message it conveys is: 'I don't recognize you, and I'm interested in hitting you.' If it's not a joke, such conversations often lead to arguments. The fourth type is a passive response. For example, if your partner says to you, "I seem to have lost some weight recently." You would say, "Oh." "Hehe." Then continue playing with your phone. This response is a refusal to communicate, and the relationship message it conveys is: "I'm not interested in you." It's likely that your partner won't tell you these things again in the future. Using the theory of emotional accounts, the first two responses are to save money, and such communication can make love flourish. The latter two responses result in a loss of money. Speaking of this, I would like you to think about which of the four communication modes do you and your partner belong to? In addition to increasing the emotional response of two individuals, the second trick to saving money into an emotional account is to strengthen shared memory. In the consultation room, I often ask partners who encounter problems: "How did you choose to be together in the first place?" "What did the other party do that moved you?" "When was the happiest time for you?" I found that even conflicting partners can have a warm feeling when recalling their shared experiences and the emotions they had at the beginning. There is a couple who argue endlessly. When it comes to their best time, it was during the summer when they first fell in love. Every night, boys pick up girls to go home from work. They sit on the floor of the rental house, order a large plate of crayfish, drink beer and watch variety show on TV. They ate all the crayfish shops in the city, gave each shop a score, and rated one of them as the best in the city. I asked them, "Is that store still there?" They said, "It's been a long time since we went, it's been closed long ago." Another couple, who were considering divorce, talked about their wonderful times, My wife said, "Don't look at my husband being so fierce now, he doesn't have a good face towards me. When he chased me back, he wrote me love letters. Every time I receive his letters, I am very moved. I will receive these letters in a box and carefully hide them." Her husband listened as his face gradually softened. I asked her, "Have you read these letters since then?" She said, "No. Later, I slowly stopped opening them." Listening to these partners reminiscing about the past, I feel like they do, with a sense of trance. Those loves used to be so beautiful and fresh, they shouldn't be like now, full of harm and making people tired. Recalling shared experiences is like opening up another space, allowing them to search for the spark of continued love from the warmth of the past. If you also feel tired in an intimate relationship, you can also flip through old photos, read past love letters, listen to old songs, and reminisce about difficult experiences with your partner. Perhaps gradually, you will know the way you came and where to go next. The third trick to saving money into an emotional account is to express recognition and appreciation to the other party. A loving partner often expresses recognition and gratitude towards each other. For example, if a wife helps her husband tidy up his clothes, the husband will say next to him, "Thank you for taking care of me so well." If the husband comes back late from work, the wife will also say, "My husband is working hard, and our family is thriving now. It's all your credit." And if you don't love each other, you will only show contempt and contempt for each other. If you understand attachment theory, you will know that these recognition and gratitude are not means of manipulating the other party, let alone fake romance. Sweet words are sweet because they meet people's needs for attachment. The language of love is constantly repeating, and people often don't listen enough to it. In fact, it is all the same sentence: "You are the most important person to me, I love you, cherish you, and really want to be with you." The communication method that can enhance each other's emotions and make love rich is also to use different words and actions to constantly convey this simple but important message to each other. Do you think there are any ways to increase emotional savings between you and your partner?
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