Lessons from this man

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We often show our best side in front of strangers, but instead, show more indifference to those close to us. With marriage and partners, some people can only appreciate each other's goodness after they lose it.

Marriage is like a lucky bridge, to meet in a sea of people hand in hand, if you do not know how to cherish, not willing to abide by the bottom line of loyalty, then the bridge will collapse at any time, and by then you can no longer be close to each other.

All ex-marital feelings are just false love, but the intense freshness can make people mistake that for real happiness.

Yuan Li and Jun Wei were introduced to each other by relatives and eventually married successfully. Many women do not have a good relationship with their in-laws after they get married. But she is an English teacher, not only has a decent job, treating elders with filial respect, seven years of marriage, Yuan Li has never fought with her mother-in-law. The mother-in-law is extraordinarily fond of her and often praises her outside as a person.

But Yuan Li's good, Jun Wei did not find and cherish the happiness that he had at the moment. He was not very much in love with his wife, except that he was at the age of marriage, plus his parents liked Yuan Li very much, so he chose the present marriage.

Junkie has a relatively high pursuit of a career, he and Yuan Li are born in a small county, but Yuan Li and his ideas are not quite the same. She feels that living in a small county can also do what she likes and can take care of her parents, which is the happiest life.

But Junkie still wanted to go to the big city to make a breakthrough, and they separated for a long time soon after they got married.

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When Junkie was working outside, he almost forgot that he had a family to take care of when he got busy. The family is responsible for all the big and small things, Yuan Li alone, even his mother-in-law is sick in hospital, and Jun Wei can not take time off work to go home. Yuan Li not only has to work during the day, but also to the hospital at night to take care of her mother-in-law, she persisted for two months, and the whole person lost a lot of weight.

My husband usually takes a long vacation before he goes home, and Junkie has achieved good results in his career after years of hard work. He will send home a fixed amount of living expenses, but Jun Chen is also a very dashing man, he will not give all the money to his wife but left a part so that he can enjoy life outside.

Junkie bought a new house in his hometown in the county, allowing the whole family to live in a better environment. But although he met Yuan Li's needs materially, there was almost a void in spiritual giving.

And in a party, Jun Wei also met a girl, the two people's feelings quickly warmed up, he then did something wrong Yuan Li.

Jun Wei was not too happy with his wife originally, just because his mom and dad liked it. Now he can meet his heart's desire for a girl, and every day he feels extra happy. He used to call his wife in two days, but after his change of heart, sometimes even when Yuan Li approached him, Jun Wei acted impatient.

After that, Jun Wei lost his mind in the extramarital relationship and he even filed for divorce from Yuan Li. When Jun Wei's mother found out, she was suffering from high blood pressure and almost fainted. But no matter how much Juni's parents opposed them, he had already decided to divorce his wife.

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Eventually, Yuan Li agreed to her husband's request. Jun Wei had some conscience because he knew he was at fault and gave her the house in his hometown and also compensated them some of the money.

When they divorced, Junkie remarried the girl he liked and received his parents at his place of work.

But his daughter-in-law's true character was hard to accept. When he was in love, he gave Jun Wei a very gentle feeling, but he didn't expect that after he got married, she turned out to be a different kind of person. She often shouted at Jun Wei's mother, and disliked her cooking was not good, and repeatedly tried to drive her in-laws back home.

His mother was already in poor health, and thanks to Yuan Li's care, she was able to get through it. But today's daughter-in-law, not to mention taking care of her mother-in-law, refuses to even help her buy medicine once, and often gives her mother-in-law overnight food at dinner time. Less than two years after Junkie and his wife remarried, his mother-in-law was hospitalized again, when her health was already very weak, and she passed away soon after.

During the months that she was in the hospital, Juni's remarried wife did not visit the hospital once to see her mother-in-law, and Junkie did not see her true character until then. After his mother left, Junkie often quarreled with his wife and felt special pain inside, and only now did he understand how good his ex-wife was.

Why did his mother like Yuan Li so much in the past, now Jun Wei appreciated his ex-wife's virtuousness and dedication to his family.

Jun Wei regrets his impulsive choice in the past, he simply does not know what real love is and does not know how to cherish the happiness he once had. Now he must endure a bad marriage because it is all a price he has to bear.

His emotional experience is also a wake-up call for all men: men who once gave up their happy families on impulse end up regretting it. The temptation of extra-marital relationships is incredibly powerful, if you do not know how to restrain it, it will be like a storm that will shatter all the good. As a married man, when you look for a virtuous and loving wife, must take up the responsibility of marriage, emotional all the time to remain loyal to your lover. Don't take the extra-marital relationship as true love and go the wrong way.

After marriage, if a man is separated from his lover for a long time, he will feel lonely inside. So when you are married, try not to live separately. In addition, there are too many temptations in this world, when you start to feel shaky in your heart about marriage and can not restrain your feelings, think more about your wife who keeps the house in order, and your precious children.

When you know that what you have now is more than enough, you will not be able to covet other things.

Life is short, I hope that all men can try to keep the bottom line of the marriage, not because of the impulse of the moment, it will break the happy life now.