How to *really* know you’re in love

If you try to Google “how to know you’re in love,” you’re gonna have a bad time

Because it’s mostly shit advice.

Here’s a small sampling:

“They’re always on your mind”

This is infatuation.

If someone’s “always” on your mind, you’re not focused on other Really Important Things. And that’s a problem.

Real love fits into real life, rather than usurping it. It’s calm, not overwhelming.

“You crave them” or “can’t get enough of them”

See above.

“They’re your ‘everything’”

Ditto.

“You see them in your future”

“When I imagined my future job/location/adopted dog, they were always in the background of my imagination helping me out with whatever I was doing. My future just didn’t really make sense without them around.”

Well, I mean, damn. You fantasize long and hard enough, you can see anything in your future — like I could imagine moving to Switzerland to be a goat farmer. That doesn’t mean I should.

So, sure, see them in your future — but not because they “complete the picture.”

“They’re the person of your dreams”

See above.

“You always want them around”

Ha. Hahaha. Clearly you have never been in a (healthy) long-term relationship.

You should usually want to see bae. But love isn’t always wanting to. Sometimes you need a minute. Sometimes you need to work or do other things. Or, damn, just be.

Don’t think it’s not love just because sometimes you want space.

“You’ll do whatever it takes to impress them.”

Love is a feeling that has puzzled humans for centuries. It's a mix of emotions, actions, and thoughts that can leave us feeling elated, confused, and everything in between. But how do you know when what you're feeling is genuine, true love? Let's break it down in simple terms.

Firstly, love isn't just a fleeting emotion. It's a deep connection that goes beyond physical attraction. When you're truly in love, you'll feel a sense of comfort and security with that person. You'll be able to be yourself completely, without fear of judgment or rejection.

Secondly, love isn't selfish. It's about putting the other person's needs and happiness above your own. You'll find yourself wanting to do whatever it takes to make them smile, even if it means sacrificing your own desires.

Another sign of true love is trust. You'll trust your partner completely, knowing that they have your best interests at heart. There won't be any doubts or suspicions lingering in the back of your mind.

Communication is key in any relationship, but it's especially important in love. When you're truly in love, you'll be able to communicate openly and honestly with your partner about anything and everything. You won't be afraid to share your thoughts, feelings, and fears, knowing that they'll listen and support you.

Respect is also essential in love. You'll have a deep respect for your partner as an individual, appreciating their strengths, weaknesses, and differences. You'll treat them with kindness and consideration, always mindful of their feelings and boundaries.

Finally, love is a partnership. You'll work together as a team to overcome any obstacles that come your way. You'll celebrate each other's successes and support each other through the tough times.

In conclusion, knowing you're in love isn't always easy, but there are some clear signs to look out for. When you feel a deep connection, selflessness, trust, open communication, respect, and partnership with someone, chances are you've found true love. So cherish it, nurture it, and hold onto it tightly, because true love is a rare and beautiful thing.