Best Man Refuses To Attend Best Friend's Wedding After The Groom Didn't Invite His Girlfriend, Sparks Debate

A wedding is an official ceremony that marks the binding of two people in a marriage. It is also a fun ceremony where families and friends of the couple attend to show their love and support. On many occasions, the close and best friends of the bride and groom go even further to support them by serving as their maid of honor and best man, respectively.

But a man has sparked debate online after he decided he would no longer attend his best friend's wedding after he asked him to be his best man because he didn’t invite his girlfriend to the ceremony.

The man explained in a Reddit post that his best friend is planning to wed his fiancé next year, but when the invitations were given out, his friend did not give any to his girlfriend, even though he was to be the best man.

What Happened?

"One of my best friends recently got engaged to his girlfriend of 4 years; they will be getting married next year, and I was over the moon for them," the man wrote as he began to narrate his story on Reddit. "A few days ago, he asked me to be his best man, and I said yes. I’d never have considered saying no, but yesterday, official invites were handed out, and my girlfriend was only granted an evening invitation. They said that they only allowed 50 people for the ceremony and 100 for the evening, and any additional seats would cost them money.

"If it were a case of the pair of them having huge pools of family and friends and they had to make a cut, I wouldn’t feel angry about it, but they both have very small families, and I then found out that people they met online playing video games have been invited to the day, and not only that, but their partners have also been invited. It just feels like a bit of a slap in the face, being the best man and not being allowed one space."

The man explained that since he met his girlfriend, he has always made sure she was invited to everything they did, because she has rarely been invited to social events.

He continued, "The bride has often said that she doesn’t like new people in her life, and my GF has very rarely been invited to social events at their house, though when she first started seeing my friend, I made sure she was invited to everything we did from day one. I’ve been with my girlfriend for six months, and by the time the wedding comes around, it’ll be pushing 2 years."

Thereafter, the man decided he would no longer attend the wedding, despite his friend's efforts to explain the situation to him.

The Controversial Decision

He said, "Anyways, I ended up telling my friend that not only would I be pulling out of being his best man, but I wouldn’t be going to the wedding, and it’s safe to say he wasn’t best pleased. He tried to explain it rationally, with there not being space for her, but I stuck to my guns. I know this may make me the asshole because I’m throwing away years of friendship for something that likely wasn’t a huge consideration for them; there just wasn’t enough space, but knowing how this had made me feel, I don’t think I’d be capable of giving a nice speech during the day.

The man then turned to other Reddit users to inquire if he was wrong to refuse to attend the wedding.

"AITA for refusing to go to my best friend's wedding after he asked me to be his best man because he didn’t invite my girlfriend to the ceremony?" he asked.

Reactions

Someone reacted to the post, saying, "YTA. 6 months into a relationship, and you're ready to throw away a lifelong friendship for the hope that you'll still be together with her by the time the wedding rolls around."

Another commented, saying, "I say NTA, even if she wasn't invited by name, it seems inappropriate not to give your best man a +1 to your wedding."

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