When He Ends It But Won't Let Go

He has decided it is time to part company and go your separate ways. You do not agree. Maybe you even beg him to give the relationship another try. Your heart is broken, but you realize it is a waste of time and energy to persist.

Although he is finished with the relationship, you find that he still wants to be in your life. He texts you almost daily. When you question him, he claims he only wants friendship. You are not obligated to entertain him.

Finally, you have to block him from all social media accounts. Since the relationship is over, you want to allow your heart to heal. You cannot mend while he is still contacting you. Now, you discover that he sends emails that become more and more aggressive with each send. You find yourself becoming a bit anxious.

What should you do? Keep reading to find what to do when he won't allow you to move on.

Be Firm

Let him know that you have decided to move on. Since he wanted to break up, he should not expect you to still maintain unwanted contact with him. Be polite but direct.

If you are going to completely sever ties with him, you must make it clear that he is not to contact you in any way. Social media, texts, phone calls, and emails are all off limits. Being indecisive will only prolong your healing.

No Guilt

You have no reason to feel guilt or shame. You have the right to have your feelings and wishes respected. Now that the relationship is over, you can reflect on what you would like to change about yourself, but you should avoid guilt.

If he tries to guilt you, that is a sure sign that the relationship was most likely unhealthy. Your time away from him can serve a purpose. You can decide what is or is not acceptable for you in a relationship.

Watch Your Thinking

It will be tempting to give in to guilt or simply the desire to talk to your ex. Unless, you really believe the two of you can get back together, you need to redirect your thinking. When he comes to mind, shift your focus to a task you need to complete or an activity that you enjoy.

Allowing your thoughts to drift in the direction of your ex's odd behavior will only cause you further pain and distraction. If you want to go forward, you need to think differently. The process takes some work, but it can be accomplished.

Seek Help If He Persists

If your ex persists with continued contact, ask for help. Your family or even his could be helpful. If family members cannot help, you might need to seek the help of law enforcement. You have the right to have peace.

Seeking legal help does not always result in restraining orders and other negative consequences. Often, a person needs to see that controlling and manipulative behavior can be harmful. Once your ex is made aware, he most likely will stop contacting you. If he still persists, then further legal action might need to be taken.

Be Happy

You have the right to be happy with yourself and your life. When you find happiness after eliminating unwanted contact, you might be tempted to feel as if you have done wrong. You have not! Be firm and confident in your decision to move on from your ex without being friends.

Eventually, your ex will move on. Until that time, continue demonstrating happiness. Show your ex that you intend to have the best life possible.