How To Find Peace of Mind? My Proven Ways To Help You Survive Tough Times

Lately, the world is lurching from one crisis to the other. We are experiencing a global pandemic, and things have changed to an extent. Some people are facing financial problems, while others have lost their loved ones to COVID-19. Besides, there are so many political issues and an array of natural disasters in different parts of the world.

The city I live in has a high rate of crime. Every day, people are killed, kidnapped, and raped in large numbers. Road accidents are also very common. In such circumstances, it becomes difficult for anybody to find peace of mind. I have had various mental problems, including stress and depression. I lost my husband, remained unemployed for years, and had a tragic accident.

Still, I have managed to make my name as a freelancer and do not believe in the idea of giving up. Whether you are facing a personal crisis or have lost someone you love, these tips can help you overcome adversity.

Listen To Music

I love listening to music. This gives me peace of mind and helps me focus on the things that mean the most to me. Studies have found that listening to music can have a wide range of effects on our health. It can boost our mood and will not make us feel alone. For some people, listening to music is a way to maintain focus.

If you are confused about what to listen to, consider Bach, Vivaldi, Handel, and Mozart. When it comes to music for ADHD symptoms, some of its types can help increase the dopamine level. Dopamine is the neurotransmitter that is a major part of the brain’s reward system. It is often regarded as a happy hormone.

Declutter

Like many other people, I always have concerns and new thoughts in my mind. These thoughts often keep me from working hard and earning a living. It can be overwhelming to have racing thoughts. Maybe, you will become less productive. The worst thing is you won’t be able to sleep because of the negative thoughts that get stuck in your brain.

The good news is that you can declutter your mind to live peacefully and comfortably. Every night when you have finished your tasks, you should do a brain dump exercise for ten to fifteen minutes. This has helped me a lot. Grab a paper and pen and set the timer for fifteen minutes. During this time, write down whatever comes to your mind. There is no need to exit anything. You just need to transfer all the information that is stored in your brain to the paper.

Practice Self-Love

It took me several years to practice self-love and to know the value of my own health. Anybody who loves their family should start practicing self-love. You cannot look after your relatives and friends if you fall ill or develop a serious mental or physical problem. Self-love begins when you end all toxic relationships, forget about your past and choose to be with the people who bring positivity to your life.

It’s safe to say that self-love is the foundation of all happiness and peace of mind. You will start setting boundaries and may pursue your goals and interests. You will feel proud of who you are and won’t chase perfectionism. When therapists and psychologists talk about self-care or self-love, they do not want you to consider yourself superior to anyone. Only narcissists think that they are better than others and they don’t take responsibility for their flaws and mistakes. Self-love begins the moment when you become humble, start looking after yourself and people around you, and don’t lack empathy.

Lower Your Expectations

I recently lowered my expectations for what I would get from friends who annoyed me for being a single mother. This made me feel relaxed and I was able to improve the quality of my work. Neuroscientist Robb Rutledge has studied what determines our emotional state, especially whether or not we can predict mood changes with time. Their research provides insights into the decision making power of people with stress and depression. People who have high expectations cannot live a peaceful life. Compared to this, people who lower their expectations don’t have serious mental problems. Thus, they are able to make great decisions.

The truth is that happiness and peace of mind don’t depend on materialistic things. Also, they have a little to do with the presence or absence of someone. For example, if your friends or colleagues don’t want to be with you for some time, let them make their decision. Your peace of mind is not linked to them. Instead, it depends on how you get the best out of your time. If you spend it on productive things, you will definitely feel good. Don’t expect others to make you happy. This will disturb your own life and may lead you to develop serious psychological complications.

Final Thoughts

I feel that we are more than whatever trouble us or keep us from moving forward. A real part of you exists beyond your expectations, problems, challenges, tensions, and doubts. It is up to you how to separate yourself from all these frustrations and troubles. Watch your actions, make your own decisions, know the value of self-care and let people go who don’t support you. Your mind may encounter troubles initially, but you will eventually learn how to enjoy your own company. Here I am not encouraging you to live alone. I am only making you understand that someone’s presence or absence should not ruin your peace of mind.

Are you ready to change your lifestyle?

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