How to deal with life's situations

When we find ourselves caught in a circus of circumstances, one of our first instincts is to try to become the master of the ring and gain control of these circumstances.

The truth is, we can't control everything in our lives, and we'll drive ourselves crazy trying. There's no shame in being crazy sometimes, because that's where life takes you, but most of us prefer to reserve that feeling for bloated coconuts.

There comes a point where the MC can step down and become a member of the meeting. Grab some peanuts and some cotton candy and see how these scenarios play out.

Although it's easier said than done, here are some tips to help you know when to step away from being ringmaster and just sit back and enjoy the crappy show that is our lives sometimes.

Psychological and physiological awareness training

When stressful situations overwhelm us and cause anxiety, frustration, and other negative emotions, our nervous system kicks in.

It can have psychological and physiological effects. Psychologically, our minds often begin to create thought patterns that tell a story about the circumstances of our lives.

These stories are usually based on the past, fears, predictions and traumas. Recognizing these thoughts for what they are helps us understand that thoughts are the story our mind tells us about a situation, not the actual truth of the situation.

While our minds are doing their best to feel Quentin Tarantino, we can sense emotions and feelings in our bodies that tell us we're not safe and we need to react.

It's a normal part of our stress, but reacting to our emotions often has negative consequences. Our mind is telling us about a situation that often does not reflect reality, especially if we react based on the story.

This is where being a member of the circus crowd of our circumstances is crucial. From the seat of the crowd, we can observe not only our circumstances, but the thoughts and emotions that arise in the body without reacting in the moment.

Depending on the strength of the thoughts and/or emotions, we may need to use the breath or our emotional senses to help us stay grounded in the present moment.

Becoming a member of the crowd and becoming aware of our thoughts and emotions gives us time to notice them and respond rather than react.

Sometimes, after observation, we may find that an answer is not necessary. It is very empowering and allows for stress relief.

Is there anything I can do to help with this situation at this time?

Now, back to our mantra, “Life is life”. At first glance, it might seem like saying "f it," but it really isn't. It's all about understanding and acceptance.

Sometimes in our circus situation it is beneficial to have a Master of Ceremonies because there are times when an action can be taken that can improve these situations.

For example, if you're stressed about not having enough money, you can start a fan-only page. If your man isn't acting right, in the words of TLC, you can take his friend. Sorry I had to add some levity to this thread, but you get the point! Sometimes you can do something.

Although we have the power to do something to change a situation, we may not be able to act at the time, so it is still beneficial to be a member of the crowd and watch.

Even if we act, the outcome of a situation depends on someone else's or something else's action beyond our control. So, understanding and accepting this, we can sit back and watch the circus unfold.

Sometimes we may not be able to act. What do we do when this happens? You guessed it, go back to the meeting and freak out. I mean, eat nuts.

While you're there, practice psychological and physiological awareness to help you understand and accept the situation.

If action can be taken, it is best to do so as soon as possible, but from a place of responsiveness. Once we practice psychological and physiological awareness we can rest assured that we are in a place to respond.

That way, we can step into the role of master of ceremonies, albeit a baby step, to the situation .

Let's help. By doing this as quickly as possible, we can reduce anxiety and focus better on the present moment.