Thirty-Something, How To Manage The Messy Life In An Awkward Age

Thirty years old is a watershed, on the one hand, the sun is hot, the flowers of the gorgeous youth, on the other hand, is the fly camp, full of chicken feathers of the messy life, once the hot-blooded youth has become the end of the insulation cup with goji berries of middle-aged uncle.

　　Thirty years old is a door, inside the door is the bland comfort at this time, and outside the door is the challenge of the unknown and passion. See the age requirements of many job advertisements - under thirty-five years old, there is an inexplicable panic, and then secretly thankful that they still have a job.

　　Thirty years old is a chasm, and the scene of the post-90s and post-00s kids talking excitedly about the running man is exactly like our obsessive fervor for "Meteor Garden" back then, and what we say about responsibility, belief, and three views seems incredible to them. Our fathers advised us that peace is blessing and contentment, but deep inside we live a stubborn, unyielding, and challenging self.

　　Thirty years old is a fork in the road. On one side is the comfortable road of life, just like a frog in warm water, immersed in the unchanging, uneventful life, and eventually losing the will and courage to jump out; on the other side, the road is muddy, curved, full of bumps and uncertainties, opportunities and challenges inspire us to grow and progress, and feel the joy of exploring the unknown world along the way.

　　Thirty years old is a turning point in life, with sharp edges, impetuousness, unrestrained speech, and sharpness being replaced by roundness and worldliness, thoughtfulness, caution, and bide one's time; we once pursued quality of life and felt it was unseemly to buy discounted and promotional goods, but now we are overjoyed to get an item that we can't use at all; we argue with merchants to defend our rights and interests, and sometimes The same is true of the so-called middle-aged greasy life?

　　How to manage a messy life at an awkward age when you are in your thirties?

　　Start reflecting on your previous life and grow in reflection.

　　Thirty-something in the work, marriage, children after the basic shape of life, when enjoying the day-to-day comfort and leisure, suddenly found that the young school bully has been in an inaccessible height in the crowd to continue to climb, I began to doubt life, better than us so desperately, we have what reason to be stagnant, chaos to spend the day?

　　When I think of the time I wasted in my youth and ignorance, I think of the opportunities I missed at the critical juncture of my life, and I feel sad.

　　Life is already comfortable enough, so why do you want to stay in comfort and not think about progress? At the age when you can still work hard, try your best to fight, and do not leave regrets in life.

　　The reflection allows us to wake up to our current situation, but also allows me to see the way to go in the future, personality in the reflection can be reconstructed, thinking in the reflection of clarity, individual in the reflection of the transformation of the bone.

　　In "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun, who sacrificed herself for love and was willing to be a housewife, started a new life after a painful reflection on her marriage.

　　Do the subtraction of life, according to their specialties, and choose the most reliable goal.

　　In the pursuit of perfection I have also set myself many goals, always give up after a period of perseverance, the treadmill at home becomes the best tool to dry clothes, and the books bought have long accumulated a thick layer of dust ...... life is again and again caught in such a vicious circle:

　　Establishing goals - fighting spirit full of - lack of self-control, external temptation and give up - painful determination - Setting goals again

　　If you set too many goals and juggle too many things, you will lose sight of the other. Start subtracting in your thirties and set one or two feasible goals at each stage that can bring your strengths into play and then stick to them.

　　Dong Mingzhu focused on air conditioning sales after the age of 35 and wrote the myth of the sales world with his persistence and perseverance.

　　People who persistently achieve the ultimate in one thing are the winners in life.

　　So how to effectively stick to the goal after establishing it? Halfway from the lack of strong motivation support, a friend said she just started running those days, after running five kilometers a day muscle soreness, physical and mental exhaustion, what makes her support down it? Every time she was about to give up, like Goujian lying in wait, she silently asked herself: "Have you forgotten the shame of being publicly ridiculed for being obese?" She asked herself silently, "Have you forgotten the shame of being publicly ridiculed for being obese?", and the "shame of the past" was the motivation for her persistence.

　　Perseverance is always accompanied by sudden changes that bring pain and discomfort, which is normal, find yourself a motivation to persevere, recall your own experience of success or missed opportunities because of perseverance, or set a positive example for yourself. Just like a mother's painful childbirth for the birth of a new life, through the most difficult days at the beginning of the change of life state, persistence becomes a habit, when the habit becomes the normal life, we will reap a different life.

　　Relieve stress and learn some ways to relieve bad emotions.

　　We strive to gain a place between the senior generation and the momentum of the 90s, the education of children, parents aging body requires us to take due responsibility to see other children learning various skills over the weekend, feel the New Year's Eve gathering filled with comparison, show off, taste sweet and sour of life, we frown, anxiety, these invisible pressure These invisible pressures are testing our sensitive and fragile heart, can not help but feel: people to middle-aged hundred things sad.

　　Thirty years old, to learn to properly vent their bad emotions, through sports, music, and meditation to relax their tense nerves, body, and mind to do some rest before continuing on the road.

　　Leave behind unrealistic fantasies and work for a reality that can be touched.

　　We feed horses, chop wood, worry about food and vegetables, and manage our work and life with all our hearts, but we don't go far away for poetry and faraway places on impulse, we are aware of the various responsibilities we have, and these responsibilities make our life profound.

　　Take work as a platform to improve your experience, after 30 years old, to start accumulating experience, ability, knowledge, contacts, and other things, away from the seven mouths, talk about the long and short, each employee in the unit has a flash point worth learning, to learn from all the strengths to constantly improve themselves, for the real touchable things worth the effort.

　　Cherish the time with the family, put down the phone, take the elderly and children out for a walk, even if it is not a salty chat, and do not replace the actual company with verbal promises, because the years rush, and can not afford to wait too much.

　　Make good use of your spare time and leave behind useless socializing.

　　In this world, no matter how good you are, there are always people who like you and people who don't like you, so there is no need to please everyone. Thirty years ago, to maintain the state of conformity, we always cut our heads into the pile of chatting, stoned crowd, now we are even outside the crowd but do not feel lonely.

　　Instead of letting life's energy slowly drain away in the false sense of dealing with irrelevant socialization, why not pick up a professional book to improve their business skills, or in the sea of knowledge to learn the essence of life, to understand the true meaning of life.

　　Spare time can make a person, but also can destroy a person.

　　The time that others use to brush the screen and talk about gossip after work will receive unexpected results: save a book on your phone and read it while waiting for your child to attend interest classes; if time allows, you can walk to and from work to exercise and do some planning or summarizing of your life that day; take time to check the details of your recent consumption to be aware of it and cut out unnecessary expenses. You can also learn some practical financial skills to increase your wealth, and making good use of the fragmented time will have unexpected gains in life.

　　Thirty years old grasp the opportunity, intentional management, and hard work, and you will harvest a different wonderful life.